Blunt Questions the Professionals Ask

Lifetime Adoption expert Mardie Caldwell offers advice to adoptive parents talking with prospective birth parents
by Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P
Founder of Lifetime Adoption

Throughout the years and many lessons learned, we know which adoption situations work and which ones don’t. Here, we’d like to share tips for adoptive parents when speaking to a potential birth mother. If any answer comes with hesitancy, is flat-out wrong or doesn’t ring true, forget about it.

If you seem to get legitimate answers you may wish to pursue it further with your adoption professional.

If you believe that a party unknown to you may really have a baby to adopt, ask these questions:

  1. Do you have references?
  2. What is your phone number and address?
  3. What’s the child’s name and age?
  4. Who and where are his birth parents?
  5. Why is this child being placed for adoption now?
  6. Do you have and will you send me medical records?
  7. Can you send me copies of legal documents related to parental rights?
  8. Who is the agency or attorney handling the legal work?


Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P., is a nationally recognized authority on adoption. A Certified Open Adoption Practitioner, Caldwell is the founder of Lifetime Adoption Center, LLC., established in 1986. Caldwell has assisted in over 1,800 successful adoptions. She was one of the first adoption professionals on the Internet.

Caldwell’s life work has been dedicated to educating and helping birth parents and adoptive parents through teaching, speaking, and resources and as a radio talk show host.

Author of a number of award-winning books, Caldwell has more than 225 media credits to her name, including: Larry King Live, ABC News, NBC’s The Today Show, CNN Headline News, CNN’s The Campbell Brown Show, CBS News, NBC News, KGO Newstalk Radio, CNN’s Black in America II, MSNBC, Fox, PBS, BBC, Dr. Laura, and is widely sought for print articles and speaking engagements.


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