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new_adoptive_parents_jason_yava.jpgLast month, we shared some useful tips for new adoptive parents. These are things that you can do now, during your adoption wait. That way, when you bring home your baby through adoption, you can have the self-assurance that you’ve already prepared. Today, we’re happy to share 9 more tips with our new or potential adoptive parents:

    1. If you haven’t already discussed parenting styles and discipline, do it now. It’s important to be on the same page early on.

 

    1. Share responsibilities with your spouse. Feeding, diapering, and bathing are skills that all parents should know and perform as needed. If you need help, check out YouTube!

 

    1. Be prepared with answers for insensitive questions from people:
      • “How much did she cost?” She is priceless — worth more than silver and gold!
      • “Is she real?” I can touch her, so yes, I believe she is real.
      • “You look great for just having a baby.” Thanks!
    2. If you see things that are concerning you, speak with a medical professional right away.

 

    1. Especially for an older child adoption, make it a priority to spend time together as a family unit, without others, until your child is well-attached and more comfortable. Here’s a great post with tips on parenting older adopted children: Discover the Top 4 Tips for Parenting Older Adopted Children.

 

    1. If your child has brought toys, clothes, blankies, or ‘treasures’ they can be comforting. Don’t throw them away. They are a part of your child’s story and may cause more trauma if they suddenly go missing.

 

    1. Always keep learning and reading. Parenting will last your lifetime.

 

    1. If you have made a commitment to stay in touch with your child’s birth family, honor them and your child by keeping your commitment you agreed upon through letters, emails, visits etc.

 

  1. Relax and enjoy being a parent! Time passes quickly!
Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P.
Written by Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P.

Founder of Lifetime Adoption, adoptive mom, adoption expert, and Certified Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P).

Since 1986, adoption expert Mardie Caldwell has been dedicated to bringing couples and birth parents together in order to fulfill their dreams.

“Many years ago, I was also searching for a child to adopt. We didn’t know where or how to get started. Through research, determination, and a prayer, our dream of a family became reality. I started with a plan, a notebook, assistance from a caring adoption consultant and a lot of hard work; this was my family I was building. We had a few heartaches along the way, but the pain of not having children was worse!

Within weeks we had three different birth mothers choose us. We were overwhelmed and delighted. Many unsettling events would take place before our adoption would be finalized, many months later. Little did I know that God was training and aligning me for the adoption work I now do today. It is my goal to share with our families the methods and plans which succeed and do not succeed. I believe adoption should be affordable and can be a wonderful “pregnancy” for the adoptive couple.

I have also been on both sides of infertility with the loss of seven pregnancies and then conceiving by new technology, giving birth to a healthy daughter. I have experienced first-hand the emotional pain of infertility and believe my experience allows me to serve your needs better.

It is my hope that for you, the prospective parents, your desire for a child will be fulfilled soon.”

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