Recently we had a question from a family, “Do you keep pictures of your baby’s birthmother to show them? Or do you just talk about them from time to time?” We posted on our Lifetime Facebook page for other adoptive parents to share what they do. Here are some great adoption tips for this question:
“We have pictures of our little girl with her birth parents in her baby book and photo album. She is 3 and will say she was in her tummy and felt her heart. She is talked to about adoption all the time.”
“My kid’s birthparent/s occupy the first couple pages in their baby album. They will always know how their story began. We are also fortunate enough to have a picture of my daughter’s birthmom at the same age (18 months) tucked in right along hers, crazy how similar they look.
“I had adoption books that I was reading to my 3 year old but she kept asking which one was her… So I made a book in Snapfish with photos that is her real story. It will arrive Saturday. I also have pictures on her shelf right next to ours.”
“We have pictures of our son’s birthmother and keep a special box of keepsakes to sow him as he grows (18 months old now). We want him to know and see what his beautiful biological mother looks like and where he gets his good looks ;) We want him to feel completely comfortable asking questions and knowing anything he is curious about regarding his birthmom and her family.”
“Our daughter is only 5 months old but her entire birth family is on my Facebook. We spent 4 weeks together surrounding the birth of a beautiful baby girl and in that time, we became a whole family. We all kind of adopted each other. Our daughter has a 2 year old sister that her birthmom is raising and we want to the girls to know each other. Our situation is unique and not ideal for everyone, but it works for us.”
Founder of Lifetime Adoption, adoptive mom, adoption expert, and Certified Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P).
Since 1986, adoption expert Mardie Caldwell has been dedicated to bringing couples and birth parents together in order to fulfill their dreams.
“Many years ago, I was also searching for a child to adopt. We didn’t know where or how to get started. Through research, determination, and a prayer, our dream of a family became reality. I started with a plan, a notebook, assistance from a caring adoption consultant and a lot of hard work; this was my family I was building. We had a few heartaches along the way, but the pain of not having children was worse!
Within weeks we had three different birth mothers choose us. We were overwhelmed and delighted. Many unsettling events would take place before our adoption would be finalized, many months later. Little did I know that God was training and aligning me for the adoption work I now do today. It is my goal to share with our families the methods and plans which succeed and do not succeed. I believe adoption should be affordable and can be a wonderful “pregnancy” for the adoptive couple.
I have also been on both sides of infertility with the loss of seven pregnancies and then conceiving by new technology, giving birth to a healthy daughter. I have experienced first-hand the emotional pain of infertility and believe my experience allows me to serve your needs better.
It is my hope that for you, the prospective parents, your desire for a child will be fulfilled soon.”