Young pregnant woman lounging on a sofa, talking on a cell phoneRecently we took to our Facebook page and asked the question, “Birth mothers engaged in open adoption often prefer not to be the one initiating contact all the time. They often want to know that you remember to reach out, as the adoptive parents of their child…and not have to ask for the updates you agreed to. How do you keep up with your end of open adoption?” We had great responses from families who have already completed the adoption process about their birthmother contact.

I keep it on my calendar as reminders to send a letter along with a DVD of photos & videos. When we are on vacation or our daughter is doing something I think they would like to know about, I’ll text pictures.” –Renee

Our birth parents specifically told us that they want to be the ones to request updates. So they send us a letter (their choice of communication,) then we send them a letter with pictures. We actually haven’t heard from them in two years. I just keep a file running so when they do contact us we can send information quickly.” –Rene’

“I text, or email and also have a Facebook page dedicated to just for her birth parents.” –Becky


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Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P.
Written by Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P.

Founder of Lifetime Adoption, adoptive mom, adoption expert, and Certified Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P).

Since 1986, adoption expert Mardie Caldwell has been dedicated to bringing couples and birth parents together in order to fulfill their dreams.

“Many years ago, I was also searching for a child to adopt. We didn’t know where or how to get started. Through research, determination, and a prayer, our dream of a family became reality. I started with a plan, a notebook, assistance from a caring adoption consultant and a lot of hard work; this was my family I was building. We had a few heartaches along the way, but the pain of not having children was worse!

Within weeks we had three different birth mothers choose us. We were overwhelmed and delighted. Many unsettling events would take place before our adoption would be finalized, many months later. Little did I know that God was training and aligning me for the adoption work I now do today. It is my goal to share with our families the methods and plans which succeed and do not succeed. I believe adoption should be affordable and can be a wonderful “pregnancy” for the adoptive couple.

I have also been on both sides of infertility with the loss of seven pregnancies and then conceiving by new technology, giving birth to a healthy daughter. I have experienced first-hand the emotional pain of infertility and believe my experience allows me to serve your needs better.

It is my hope that for you, the prospective parents, your desire for a child will be fulfilled soon.”

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