Adoptive parents-in-waiting ask: “Should we have a nursery or room ready before we adopt?” The answer to this will vary parent to parent—some families prefer to wait so that an empty room or unused gear aren’t sitting unused, while others like knowing they are ready and stocked for when their child arrives. Whatever you decide to do in your adoption path, it IS wise to plan ahead for some things, even if it’s just to create a registry or have a list of items you know you’ll want or need when it’s time for your adoption.
Today’s adoptive parents tell us their favorite tips for preparing for their future child involve visiting stores or websites to become aware of products they’ll want for their future child, and then creating online registries or shopping lists to keep track of those items for later. Whether you’re adopting an older child or an infant, there are many websites and shops that will allow you to create a registry that can easily be accessed and updated when you know more about the child you will adopt.
For example, if you are open to adopting a child ranging in age from newborn up to three years old, you may hesitate to assemble a crib and changing table in a room that could ultimately house a toddler. With registries today, many online and local stores allow adoptive parents-to-be to build a list of items they may possibly need, and then update it when they know the age and needs of the actual child.
“This sort of is the best of both worlds,” an adoptive mom-to-be explains. “I can learn about things I’ll need for our baby, and the organizer in me can sort them out and have them ready for when we’ll need them, but still not have these things sitting around the house collecting dust or reminding me we’re still waiting.”
A new adoptive mom shares, “I found out what a blessing that online registry was for us when I realized that while we were traveling to meet our baby I could also order a few items I knew I’d need immediately and have them shipped to the hotel where we’d be staying. Plus, I didn’t want gender neutral colors on everything, so we had our boy items and girl items all in our registry so that we could get what we wanted when the time came. These lists online also helped my family and friends plan a shower for us when we were back home. It was a relief not to have to juggle a registry on top of welcoming home our new baby.”
Amazon’s wish lists and online baby registry have been among the most popular for future adoptive parents, as well as adoption-specific registries through retail chains like Buy Buy Baby (get link). Even Wal-Mart’s app and website offer a “list” function, where you can create category specific lists and add items as you browse online.
It’s normal for anyone hoping to adopt to want to dream about and plan for the child they will welcome into their family soon enough. Online lists and registries have changed the way adoptive parents handle the uncertainties surrounding their future child’s needs and the timing of their adoption. Stay tuned to part 2 of this topic, including shopping checklists for adoptive parents-to-be.
Founder of Lifetime Adoption, adoptive mom, adoption expert, and Certified Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P).
Since 1986, adoption expert Mardie Caldwell has been dedicated to bringing couples and birth parents together in order to fulfill their dreams.
“Many years ago, I was also searching for a child to adopt. We didn’t know where or how to get started. Through research, determination, and a prayer, our dream of a family became reality. I started with a plan, a notebook, assistance from a caring adoption consultant and a lot of hard work; this was my family I was building. We had a few heartaches along the way, but the pain of not having children was worse!
Within weeks we had three different birth mothers choose us. We were overwhelmed and delighted. Many unsettling events would take place before our adoption would be finalized, many months later. Little did I know that God was training and aligning me for the adoption work I now do today. It is my goal to share with our families the methods and plans which succeed and do not succeed. I believe adoption should be affordable and can be a wonderful “pregnancy” for the adoptive couple.
I have also been on both sides of infertility with the loss of seven pregnancies and then conceiving by new technology, giving birth to a healthy daughter. I have experienced first-hand the emotional pain of infertility and believe my experience allows me to serve your needs better.
It is my hope that for you, the prospective parents, your desire for a child will be fulfilled soon.”