Question: I feel God is calling me to become a mother again through adoption. I would especially like to adopt a child who doesn’t have parents, such as through the foster system or even international adoption. My husband doesn’t agree, though. He says God is calling us to be the best parents we can be to the three children we have been blessed with. Do you have any advice when a couple is conflicted about God’s will for their lives?
Jesus told us in Mark 3:25 that, “If a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand.” After God, your marriage and family must be the top priority in your life. Adoption should be a decision that the entire family embraces.
Continue to pray about this, and pray for God’s will to be made evident to both you and your husband. In fact, I would encourage you to pray together about adoption and children in need. You may find God softens your husband’s heart, or you may find He changes your vision. Either way, you need to be united in your steps to adoption for the child’s sake.
As you take time in prayer, talk with your husband openly and honestly about your family. You may find his hesitation is something not related to adoption at all. Perhaps he is worried about the additional cost of raising another child, or maybe he just wishes he had more alone time with you!
There are other ways you can aid and assist children in need of loving homes. Consider starting an adoption ministry in your church to bring awareness to the need and raise funds to help support those who have been called to adoption. This is an active role that many women are pursuing as they realize that the call to adoption is not to adopt a child into their family, but rather to lift up and support others who are building their families through the miracle of adoption.
This adoption question and answer was excerpted from Lifetime Founder Mardie Caldwell’s most recent book, Called to Adoption. To learn more about how you can answer God’s call to you to adopt a baby or child, please give Lifetime Adoption a call: (530) 432-7373 or visit www.LifetimeAdoption.com.