We all have times in life when we’re facing hard situations. Or, it may be that your child, co-worker, spouse, friend or loved one is upset at you. The tips below can be applied to either circumstance.
When dealing with difficult situations or challenging people, it is important that you take a moment and remember to first seek to understand them from their standpoint. What are they feeling? Where do they hurt? Then, it’ll be much easier for you to be understood by them and for them to be open to your viewpoint. Listening intently to their needs and wants can create an atmosphere of caring and concern for their viewpoint. We all are looking at life through different lenses. So, we need to be understood first before we can be open to new information, wisdom or advice.
I have found is true even with my own family; recently my mother said “just hear me out…” And it made a world of difference hearing her viewpoint uninterrupted before I gave my suggestions.
When people feel heard and are able to express their feelings uninterrupted, they’re more willing and open to your suggestions, help and advice. Try this today.
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Founder of Lifetime Adoption, adoptive mom, adoption expert, and Certified Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P).
Since 1986, adoption expert Mardie Caldwell has been dedicated to bringing couples and birth parents together in order to fulfill their dreams.
“Many years ago, I was also searching for a child to adopt. We didn’t know where or how to get started. Through research, determination, and a prayer, our dream of a family became reality. I started with a plan, a notebook, assistance from a caring adoption consultant and a lot of hard work; this was my family I was building. We had a few heartaches along the way, but the pain of not having children was worse!
Within weeks we had three different birth mothers choose us. We were overwhelmed and delighted. Many unsettling events would take place before our adoption would be finalized, many months later. Little did I know that God was training and aligning me for the adoption work I now do today. It is my goal to share with our families the methods and plans which succeed and do not succeed. I believe adoption should be affordable and can be a wonderful “pregnancy” for the adoptive couple.
I have also been on both sides of infertility with the loss of seven pregnancies and then conceiving by new technology, giving birth to a healthy daughter. I have experienced first-hand the emotional pain of infertility and believe my experience allows me to serve your needs better.
It is my hope that for you, the prospective parents, your desire for a child will be fulfilled soon.”