What to Do When Mother’s Day is Hard

by | May 10, 2019 | Adoptive Families Blog

mothers-day-hardMother’s Day isn’t easy without a child to hold and hug, when more than anything, you want that. It’s so hard to have that longing, and not have something that so many other women are experiencing – motherhood. Not having a child can make the second Sunday in May so much more difficult.

If Mother’s Day brings feelings of pain or longing for you, know that you’re not alone. As an adoptive mother myself, I know that it’s difficult. A lot of the time on Mother’s Day, I just wanted to curl up in bed and forget the whole day because it can be really painful.

It’s hard to wait when you’re SO ready to be a mom. Right now, God might be saying, “Not yet. Wait.” While you have no idea what’s in store, He does! His plan is more considerable than anything you can envision.

Know that you are in our prayers. We pray that you have hope, peace, and find joy in everyday life as you wait. We pray that you continue to find comfort in seeing others’ adoption stories as you wait for God to write yours. And while our words might not comfort you, His words will never disappoint.

“I pray that from his glorious, unlimited resources he will empower you with inner strength through his Spirit.”
-Ephesians 3:16

“Wait patiently for the Lord. Be brave and courageous. Yes, wait patiently for the Lord.”
-Psalm 27:14

If you’re a woman waiting to adopt, remember that there is a baby for you! Maybe Mother’s Day feels like just another reminder that you’re not a mom yet. We’ve got tips to help you survive this holiday, and all the brouhaha surrounding it.

Here, I share guidance and what helped me during my adoption journey here: How To Survive Mother’s Day When You’re Waiting To Adopt. 

And, here, you can read words of encouragement from Lifetime’s adoptive moms: “Celebrating and Honoring a Mother’s Love.”

I believe that Mother’s Day takes on the meaning that you give it yourself. You can give it a meaning that’s painful and negative, or one that’s positive. It took me several years to do this, but I really found that the meaning I wanted to give to Mother’s Day was to be grateful. I focused on being thankful that I did have a mother myself, celebrating her, and all the moms in my life. And I had to be grateful for what I had and that I had an opportunity to adopt. I think being grateful really helped me during my adoption wait.

Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P.
Written by Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P.

Founder of Lifetime Adoption, adoptive mom, adoption expert, and Certified Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P).

Since 1986, adoption expert Mardie Caldwell has been dedicated to bringing couples and birth parents together in order to fulfill their dreams.

“Many years ago, I was also searching for a child to adopt. We didn’t know where or how to get started. Through research, determination, and a prayer, our dream of a family became reality. I started with a plan, a notebook, assistance from a caring adoption consultant and a lot of hard work; this was my family I was building. We had a few heartaches along the way, but the pain of not having children was worse!

Within weeks we had three different birth mothers choose us. We were overwhelmed and delighted. Many unsettling events would take place before our adoption would be finalized, many months later. Little did I know that God was training and aligning me for the adoption work I now do today. It is my goal to share with our families the methods and plans which succeed and do not succeed. I believe adoption should be affordable and can be a wonderful “pregnancy” for the adoptive couple.

I have also been on both sides of infertility with the loss of seven pregnancies and then conceiving by new technology, giving birth to a healthy daughter. I have experienced first-hand the emotional pain of infertility and believe my experience allows me to serve your needs better.

It is my hope that for you, the prospective parents, your desire for a child will be fulfilled soon.”

Read More About Mardie Caldwell

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