Sometimes hopeful parents wonder if raising a child through adoption would be “the same” as raising a child they gave birth to. Every adoptive parent will tell you, “There’s no difference. That child is your baby!” The adoption truth is this: adoption builds families.
Maybe you’ve wondered whether or not you’d love an adopted child as much as you would a biological one. You might be struggling with whether or not the love you’ll feel for your adopted child will be as strong as the love you have for your biological children. Asking yourself this question is natural, and totally necessary, even if it seems shameful. We’re going to delve into this issue today, to reveal the adoption truth. And that’s that you’ll truly love your adopted child and develop a genuine connection with them.
We always hear of the instant, close bond between mother and baby, but the truth is, sometimes these ties don’t come right away in some biological families. Some moms and dads have a difficult time bonding with their baby. In cases of post-partum depression or anxiety, bonding with a new baby can be challenging. The bottom line is, an immediate level of love and devotion doesn’t always happen. In many families, parents grow to love their children and develop bonds a little later. Adoption can work in the same way. The love may not happen right away for some families, while others feel an immediate connection.
The foundation of a close, loving relation isn’t always carrying your child in the womb or sharing genes with them. In reality, the love that develops between a parent and child comes from the care and nurturing the parent provides their child. If you keep this in mind, then it totally makes sense that the love you feel for your biological children will be the same for an adopted child.
Since you’ll be providing primary care to your child, it won’t matter that they didn’t biologically come from you. You’ll be the one need when they’re sick or hurt. You’ll be the one to answer their many curious questions. They’ll call you their parent, and you’ll call them your child. The relationships parents develop with their biological children can be created with your adopted child who, truthfully, is simply your child.
Hear one adoptive mom, Kimberly, share her thoughts on this topic in the short video below:
Remember, infertility doesn’t have to be the end of a dream. It could mean the beginning of the next step towards your future child!
Founder of Lifetime Adoption, adoptive mom, adoption expert, and Certified Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P).
Since 1986, adoption expert Mardie Caldwell has been dedicated to bringing couples and birth parents together in order to fulfill their dreams.
“Many years ago, I was also searching for a child to adopt. We didn’t know where or how to get started. Through research, determination, and a prayer, our dream of a family became reality. I started with a plan, a notebook, assistance from a caring adoption consultant and a lot of hard work; this was my family I was building. We had a few heartaches along the way, but the pain of not having children was worse!
Within weeks we had three different birth mothers choose us. We were overwhelmed and delighted. Many unsettling events would take place before our adoption would be finalized, many months later. Little did I know that God was training and aligning me for the adoption work I now do today. It is my goal to share with our families the methods and plans which succeed and do not succeed. I believe adoption should be affordable and can be a wonderful “pregnancy” for the adoptive couple.
I have also been on both sides of infertility with the loss of seven pregnancies and then conceiving by new technology, giving birth to a healthy daughter. I have experienced first-hand the emotional pain of infertility and believe my experience allows me to serve your needs better.
It is my hope that for you, the prospective parents, your desire for a child will be fulfilled soon.”