ABC News just ran a story about a woman’s search for her sister: Woman’s Search for Long-Lost Sister Comes with a Twist. Karen and Diane have the same mother and were born seven years apart. They were each placed with separate adoptive families. After years of each woman searching for their biological family, they finally got word from the state adoption registry and were able to reunite.
With open adoption being the norm today, it ends the need for heart-wrenching stories like Karen and Diane’s. Open adoption has changed these “long lost” stories for many newer generations of adoptees. That’s because in open adoptions, you’re able to choose the adoptive family and can stay in touch. So, your child will never have to wonder “where did I come from?” and “do I have brothers or sisters?”
It’s becoming increasingly common for a birth mother to want an open adoption for her children (as siblings). Even if she doesn’t want to maintain a really close relationship after one of her child’s adoptions, she may anticipate the siblings wanting to know each other years down the road. It’s common for birth mothers to want the child she placed to know he or she has siblings out there…so they aren’t “long lost.”
There are many benefits of open adoption, one of which is the ability to know what happens to a child after his adoption takes place, as well as giving that child information about his birth history. Today’s news story reminds us of one of the most common questions we hear from birth mothers today: “Can my child know his siblings after the adoption happens?”
Open adoption really has an advantage for the adopted child; it takes the mystery away. They aren’t left with questions about where they come from. It gives children the chance for connections, for information, and to know that they’re loved by their birth families.
As the Chief Operating Officer (COO) of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.
Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.
As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.