I just learned that my 13-year-old daughter is pregnant. She thinks that she is eight months along and has been hiding it from all of us. I’m mad and sad all at the same time, but one thing I know for sure is that she needs to give up this baby for adoption. Can you help us even though she hasn’t been to the doctor yet and is so young?
Yes, Lifetime can help you with adoption. No matter where a woman is in her pregnancy, it is never too late to make an adoption plan. Some women even call from the hospital, after giving birth. Adoption plans can be made very quickly, and your daughter, along with your help, can still choose adoptive parents, speak with them, and make choices for ongoing contact.
We have helped a number of young teens, a few even younger than your daughter, create a custom adoption plan for their baby. Even though they are still minors, the mother of the baby will be the one to sign the legal documents to consent to the adoption. They have the ability to make all the choices if they desire. And, remember that there is never a cost to the birth family to make an adoption plan.
As the birth grandmother, we understand that you may want to be very involved too, and we welcome that! We also know that your feelings and emotions may swing wildly at this time. It is normal to be angry, sad, reflective, joyful, and relieved all at the same time. Let your feelings happen without analyzing them and seek help if you feel overwhelmed. We are here for you too!
Adoptive parents are ready to stay in touch with your daughter, and with you as the birth grandmother! They are eager, if you wish, to stay in touch with you. We have seen these relationships firsthand and they are often amazing. Open adoption is not goodbye forever, and you will have the opportunity to stay a part of your grandchild’s life.
If you or someone you know is hiding a pregnancy, please call Lifetime today for free adoption help and guidance. There is no cost and everything is completely private and confidential.
As the Chief Operating Officer (COO) of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.
Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.
As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.