Did you know that with open adoption, you can choose your baby’s parents? You can also choose how things go at the hospital, and much you’d like to stay in touch with the adoptive couple over the years. The choices are yours!
Here’s a breakdown of all of the choices you have with adoption; you can pick and choose as you’d like, creating your customized DIY adoption plan:
Choose your adoptive family
You can start by looking at adoptive family profiles online on our website. All of our adoptive families have been pre-screened and are ready to take on the responsibilities of parenting. Your adoption coordinator will also send you longer versions of the profiles in the mail.
A good idea is to pick your 1st, 2nd, and 3rd choices in adoptive parents. Each adoptive family will have a toll-free number and e-mail address to make it easy for you to contact them.
Here are some things to consider about adoptive families:
- Do you want your child raised in a particular state or area?
- How important is it for them to grow up with a brother or sister?
- What faith do you want them to be brought up with?
- Do you think that you would like them to be in the city or country? Near mountains or the ocean?
- How important is it to be active in sports or outdoor activities?
- Are the arts important, possibly a family that enjoys classical music, ballet, opera, museums, and attending cultural events?
- Are pets important?
- Extended family, grandparents?
Think about how you want things to go at the hospital
Here are some questions to ask yourself about how things will go once you’re at the hospital for delivery:
- Who I want to be at the hospital with me when I deliver?
- Do I want my baby in the room with me, or would I like them kept in the nursery with the adoptive parents?
- After I deliver, will I want to be in a different area of the hospital away from the labor and delivery area?
- How much should the adoptive parents to participate in the birth? Do I want them in the delivery room or waiting outside?
- Will I want the newborn pics that the hospital takes of my baby?
- Do I want to wait until my baby leaves, or do I wish to leave first?
Make a plan for future contact that fits your life
Do you want a closed, semi-open, or open adoption? In a closed adoption, you let your adoption professional choose the adoptive family for you. After the adoption, you will have no contact with the family or with the child.
With semi-open adoption, only your first names are shared with the adoptive parents. You may have some say in the selection of adoptive parents, followed by little or no contact with the child or family.
In an open adoption, you may choose your child’s family. You may also stay in touch. Some women want letters and photos, and others want occasional visits and phone calls.
Do you have questions about your choices in adoption? Please call Lifetime Adoption at 1-800-923-6784 or chat live with us!
As the Chief Operating Officer (COO) of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.
Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.
As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.