“My Mom says that since I made the choice to have sex, I have to be a mom. She is dead-set against the idea that I’d adopt out my baby.
How can I get my Mom’s support? I have no idea how I’d be able to parent right now, so adoption is really the best decision I could make…”
Many families, especially those with strong Christian values, may struggle to accept that their daughter is pregnant (or when their son announces he’s going to be a dad). This is normal, and your mother may be having a hard time accepting that your life has changed forever.
Adoption may feel strange to her, especially if it means saying goodbye to her first grandchild, no matter how unexpected it may be.
We recommend that you keep the conversation going. Motherhood is not meant to be a punishment for pregnancy. Adoption can be a wonderful blessing for you and your child. You get to continue to pursue your goals and your child gets the life you want for him or her, including the choice of adoptive parents! You may want to include your mom in choosing a family, especially if it is important to her to choose a Christian adoption. And, it might help to share with her the benefits of choosing adoption.
Remember, she can’t force you to parent. The reality is, you have the final say over what happens to your baby. We encourage women to make informed decisions. If you’d like to talk or set up counseling, call us anytime at the number below.
Lifetime Adoption is available 24/7 to answer any questions you might have about adoption for your baby.
As the Chief Operating Officer (COO) of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.
Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.
As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.