If you’re dealing with an unplanned pregnancy, you might be wondering how you’ll handle your family member’s reactions at Thanksgiving. When you arrive at Thanksgiving dinner with a baby bump, how will you answer their questions?
Being with family during the holidays can be intense, and might bring up issues. Since you’re facing a crisis, you might have a difficult time getting “into” all the holiday cheer around you.
Know that you’re not alone. Many women have been where you’re at, and have felt like you’re feeling right now. So today, we’re giving you some ideas and tips for you on how you might handle Thanksgiving with an unplanned pregnancy!
Once you arrive at Thanksgiving festivities pregnant, some family members may ask you snoopy, nosy questions like “are you sure you’re ready to be a mom right now?!” Think about it this way: is anyone really ever *really* ready? There are a lot of aspects to adoption and motherhood to think about. Making an adoption plan and becoming a mom are both major life events, ones that take lots of time and thought before starting.
The truth is, no one can tell you what you should do next. People will tell you what they think you should do, of course, but they can’t tell you how having or not having this baby will affect your life.
So if people ask you awkward (or downright rude) questions, you could respond with something like, “I am going to take some time to think about it, so I can make the best decision for my baby’s future. Right now, I’m just taking things day by day.”
If you feel like you just can’t go to Thanksgiving dinner because of your situation, that’s OK. It’s OK to put this tradition aside to care for your needs right now. Sometimes we feel like we have to carry on with life as usual. But the reality is that things aren’t as usual. Even if you’re making an adoption plan and your family supports it, you might still have a hard time acting like nothing’s changed, or nothing’s happening.
Lifetime Adoption’s hotline is available on Thanksgiving Day and during the weekend, too. We’re always here to answer your questions about adoption.
Just call or text us at 1-800-923-6784.
As Vice President of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.
Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.
As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.