Once you’ve decided that adoption is the best choice for you and your baby, an important step is finding a good “match”. It’s not just about finding a family that will give your child a good life, since there are tons of those. Today, we’re sharing about how to find an adoptive couple you feel comfortable with, and who have all the qualities you’re looking for in a family for your child. Since you’ll have a life-long relationship with them, we make sure that you feel a connection to the family you pick.
Learning Info About Adoptive Parents
Lifetime has so many wonderful couples who are hoping to adopt, and you have the opportunity to hand-pick the family that matches what you’re looking for. This is your child’s future…you’re allowed to be as picky as you want!
What many birth mothers have found helpful is to write down a list of what they were looking for and what they wanted for their child’s future. Then, when you talk to your Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime, she has a great sense of which adoptive family profiles to send you. If you’d rather, she can also email you links to adoptive family websites.
Every birth mom has different preferences. What you’re looking for in an adoptive couple may be based totally on your feelings or on pictures. Many birth mothers tell us that they just felt an instant connection to a certain family, like something “clicked” with them. Whatever you’re looking for in a couple, make sure that they respect you and your decision, and are committed to keeping up on a lifelong relationship with you.
Lifetime Adoption can help you find an adoptive couple that fits your needs. A great place to start your search is by looking at the adoptive family websites on our site. Every hopeful adoptive couple shares about their lives, jobs, beliefs, hobbies, promises to you, and lots more. Their website also has photos, and many adoptive couples have short videos where you can learn even more about the couple! You can start your search using this link:
Getting to Know the Adoptive Family
Once you’ve picked your top two or three couples, you have the opportunity to get to know them more. Your Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime will provide you with their toll-free phone number and set up a time for a phone conversation. If you’re super nervous, your Adoption Coordinator can join in on the phone call too and help get the conversation moving.
The adoptive couples you talk to will be just as excited to get to know you as you are to know them. And, you have the power to make the next move. Feel free to move as slowly as you need to, and ask the couple whatever questions you have. Questions are a good way to make sure that the adoptive family will be the right fit for you and your child!
Creating an Open Adoption Plan
Once you’ve chosen your perfect adoptive family, we encourage you to start building your relationship with them. Have conversations about how open you want the adoption to be. Make sure to voice your needs and wants. Keeping communication open is necessary in an open adoption. The level of openness may change over time, but now is your time to let the family know what you need and want.
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As the Chief Operating Officer (COO) of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.
Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.
As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.