pregnant_christmas.jpgIf you’re already decided that adoption is the right choice for you, you might be wondering how to handle family member’s questions during the holidays. When you go to Christmas and holiday parties and are “showing”, how will you respond to their questions?

We’ve put together a few ideas and tips for you on you might handle this situation.

If you’re still in your teens and pregnant, your parents will be the best people to help you handle your situation. Maybe you’re wondering, “how do I tell my parents I’m pregnant?” Here’s a great link with tips on how to tell them. If you’re thinking about doing adoption for your baby, ask your parents for their full support in your decision. It can help if you go over questions with your parents such as where you’d live if you parented, how you’d make money to support your child, and how you’d have time to continue going to school. After thinking the situation through, they will probably be more supportive in the choice of adoption.

If you’re pregnant and are trying to hide the fact that you’re doing adoption, know that the truth will probably come out at some point. So it’s good to have a plan of action in place if you are hiding it. Think it through; it might be good to talk to your family about it. Think about how it’ll affect your living situation. Also, if you’re keeping your plans of adoption a secret, think about what you’ll do when you give birth. What’s the plan so your family won’t find out? If you already have kids, who will watch them when you go into labor? What will you tell family when you start showing? It’ll greatly help you if you have a firm plan in place, and believe that your plan is the best for your baby and you too.

As you arrive at family gatherings over the holidays and are pregnant, some people may ask you nosy questions such as “are you sure you’re ready to be a mom right now?!” Think about it–is anyone really ever ready? There are a lot of aspects to adoption AND motherhood to consider, and neither are something that should be entered into lightly. You might respond with something like, “I have a lot of time to think about it, so I can make the best decision for my baby in the future. For now, I’m just taking it day by day.”

Next week, we’ll share more tips about how to share your adoption plans, including how to handle peoples’ questions about your baby’s father. In the meantime, we suggest watching this short video series that shows what open adoption is like. Birth mothers share with you in their own words what their adoption story was like:


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