If you have kids, they may wonder about your pregnancy and adoption decision. Depending on their age, you can tell them that you are going to have a baby, but won’t be able to take care of the baby. Babies need lots of attention, and you may not be able to care for any more children right now. You might explain that you don’t have a crib, special baby food, or a stroller to push the baby in, and there wouldn’t be anyone to care for the baby while you are at work.
Tell them that you have found a family who want a baby to love, and that they are going to take care of the baby in your tummy. Your child might be worried that the other family will adopt them too, so it’s a good idea to explain that they will still live with you. They will always be that baby’s sister or brother, but the baby just won’t live with you.
You know your kids, and you know what they will be able to handle and understand. Many women have chosen not to tell their kids who are very young because it is too complicated for the child and too difficult for themselves. You may wish to discuss this with a trusted friend or relative who knows your child.
For more information, here is a children’s book you might share with your child to explains adoption:
Do you have questions about the adoption process? Please call Lifetime Adoption at 1-800-923-6784.
As Vice President of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.
Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.
As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.