What’s it like to be 15 and pregnant, and then become a mom? Check out Nicole’s story and where she is now:
“I remember when I wanted to have a baby so bad. I was fifteen years old and could not stop thinking about how happy a baby would make me. My friend Kim had a baby when she was a teenager and it looked like she was always having fun. She would bring the baby out with her and everyone was always paying attention to the two of them. I just wanted people to pay attention to me like that.
A baby would love me no matter what and that would feel really good to know that there was someone in this world that would always love me. And it really wouldn’t be that hard to take care of a baby. I mean they are so little how much work could they really be? Just feed them a bottle and change their diaper and they are happy.
I even talked to my boyfriend about what we would do if I got pregnant. He said he would stay with me and help take care of the baby. He even thought he would get a good job and we could move in together.
But then I got pregnant. My mom and dad were actually trying to be cool. They were really mad, but didn’t throw me out of the house or anything. My boyfriend was totally there for me while I was pregnant. Then my daughter was born. She was born early and had to stay in intensive care for a couple weeks. When I finally brought her home, she was hooked up to a machine to monitor her breathing. My boyfriend tried to come over when he could, but that was only about once a week.
When my daughter was off her monitors, I was ready to go back to school. I had to find daycare, which cost me more than I could make at a part-time job. My boyfriend sent me some money to help, but it barely covered the cost of diapers and baby formula. So I finally had to drop out of high school because there was no way I could afford to be at school all day and working all night.
My daughter is 5 now and I am still living at home. I thought I would be able to get a job and support my daughter, and me. But I can’t pay the bills without my parents help. I’m hoping that this year I will be able to get my GED and maybe go to community college. My boyfriend has a new girlfriend and is now a junior at a college on the east coast. He sends money when he can, but that is not very often.
If I could talk to myself when I was fifteen and wanting a baby, I would explain all the costs that really go with having a baby. I would talk about the sleepless nights and how hard it was to get daycare. I would especially try to convince myself not to have a baby until I was married. I wish I had someone around, when I was younger, that would have told me how hard being 15 and pregnant and a mother really was. Abortion was not an option for me, but adoption should have been, and it could be your perfect option too.
If you’re pregnant and considering adoption for your baby, call Lifetime Adoption at 1-800-923-6784.
As Vice President of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.
Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.
As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.