Is Choosing Adoption for my Baby a Selfish Decision?

“I’ve heard from lots of people that adoption is a selfish decision and one that I’ll regret for the rest of my life. Is that true?”

Not at all! In fact, choosing adoption is literally the opposite of selfish. Placing her baby with an adoptive family is one of the most courageous things a woman can do.

Depending on her life situation, choosing a family to provide for her baby in a way that she’s unable is the best decision a birth mother can make for her child. She’s putting the best interests of her child before her own and setting her needs to the side. Adoption doesn’t mean abandoning her child – it means truly being a mother. It’s a brave, strong, selfless, loving, and responsible decision to make when your baby needs it most.

Just like any major life decision, adoption comes with lots of emotions. It’s totally normal to question your thoughts and feelings during the process. After you select the adoptive family for your baby, you’ll then create an adoption plan that meets your needs. Plus, with modern open adoption, you can make a plan that allows you to be in your child’s life in a way you feel comfortable.

Modern adoption plans put YOU in control of the process. Because of this, many birth mothers have told us that they felt confident in their decision, and had no regrets later in life. By knowing that she made a positive decision out of love and in the best interest of her child, birth mothers are better able to cope with their feelings and emotions.

Written by Heather Featherston

As Vice President of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.

Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.

As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.

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