When faced with an unplanned pregnancy, many girls and women wonder, “Should I marry the father of my baby?” If you’ve been asking yourself that very question, then this post is for you.
Getting married should be a carefully weighed decision, not just something that you jump into. If you’re going to spend the rest of your life with this person, the least you can do is to give thought to how compatible you are with your partner, spiritually and mentally.
Cassie, 24, got married to her boyfriend Matt when they were seniors in high school. “Looking back now, I realize that we were both too young to understand how serious marriage really is. We were still kids ourselves, and should’ve allowed our relationship to develop and mature more, before we got hitched!”
Think about why you want to marry the father of your baby: Are you doing it out of love for the man, or just to save yourself from the embarrassment of being an unwed, young mom? Are you both confident of your abilities to raise your baby and be good role models? Marriages should not be based on your convenience, but based on your true love for each other. If you are marrying for the wrong reasons, with a baby on the way, you already have a lot going against you. Statistics prove that couples who get married because a baby is on the way have a higher chance of failure than those marriages based on a solid foundation of love, faith, and trust. Don’t make a hasty or poorly thought out decision.
It takes a lot of maturity, mental and financial stability, and sacrifices to raise a child. Are you confident that you and your boyfriend have what it takes to overcome an unplanned pregnancy and marriage? If not, adoption is a wonderful alternative that allows your child to grow up in the best of environments. An adoptive family will serve as good role models for your child and provide the healthy image of marriage that every growing child finds security in.
If you’d like to explore the pregnancy choice of adoption, call Lifetime anytime at
1-800-923-6784. That line is answered 24/7. You can also request to have a free Adoption Planning Kit mailed to you by clicking here.
Founder of Lifetime Adoption, adoptive mom, adoption expert, and Certified Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P).
Since 1986, adoption expert Mardie Caldwell has been dedicated to bringing couples and birth parents together in order to fulfill their dreams.
“Many years ago, I was also searching for a child to adopt. We didn’t know where or how to get started. Through research, determination, and a prayer, our dream of a family became reality. I started with a plan, a notebook, assistance from a caring adoption consultant and a lot of hard work; this was my family I was building. We had a few heartaches along the way, but the pain of not having children was worse!
Within weeks we had three different birth mothers choose us. We were overwhelmed and delighted. Many unsettling events would take place before our adoption would be finalized, many months later. Little did I know that God was training and aligning me for the adoption work I now do today. It is my goal to share with our families the methods and plans which succeed and do not succeed. I believe adoption should be affordable and can be a wonderful “pregnancy” for the adoptive couple.
I have also been on both sides of infertility with the loss of seven pregnancies and then conceiving by new technology, giving birth to a healthy daughter. I have experienced first-hand the emotional pain of infertility and believe my experience allows me to serve your needs better.
It is my hope that for you, the prospective parents, your desire for a child will be fulfilled soon.”