How Do I Choose Adoptive Parents for My Baby?

Your mind may be spinning as you cope with an unplanned pregnancy. Even when you have decided that adoption is the right choice for you and your baby, you still have options to consider and choices to make. The adoptive couple you want to adopt your baby is one of those choices.

 
Remember, you are not alone. Your Lifetime Adoption Coordinator is here to help you work through what is important to you. Is it important to have a couple of faith, a family that lives in the country, or would you prefer a city upbringing? Would you prefer the family has other children? Are you open to placing your baby with a single adoptive mother? Would you like the family to live in the same state as you or further away?
 
There are many things to consider when choosing adoptive parents for your child, and your coordinator will help you work through what is important to you and what is not.
 

Open Adoption

Choosing adoptive parents interested in the same amount of contact after the adoption as you are is very important. If you hope for monthly updates and a visit once a year, make sure this is discussed. Whatever contact is comfortable to you is what needs to be agreed on, which will help as you make your choice of adoptive parents.
 
Lifetime promotes open adoption, and we have the utmost respect for birth mothers and the sacrifice they are making for their children. We encourage adoptive parents to create a post-adoption contact agreement with the birth mother so that everyone is on the same page after the adoption is final. It is important for the child that everyone sticks to the agreement and treats each other with kindness and respect.
 

Adoptive Parent Profiles

Once you know what you are looking for in an adoptive family, you can look through all the hopeful adoptive parents available at Lifetime. You can read about their lives, and many have videos you can watch. Your coordinator can also help you narrow it down by suggesting families she feels would be ideal for you and your baby.
 

How Do I Know My Baby Will be Safe?

You can be sure that every adoptive couple working with Lifetime has passed extensive background checks and interviews. Hopeful adoptive parents must have a home study done before they are eligible to be chosen by a birth mother.
 
A home study is done by a qualified social worker who completes background checks, financial checks, reviews medical records, and makes sure the home is safe and ready for a child. These couples are happy to share all their information to realize their dreams of growing their families.
 

Creating a Relationship

Once a family is chosen, and a match is made, you can start forming a relationship with the adoptive parents. You can decide how much contact you would like during your pregnancy. Would you like the adoptive mom to come to doctor’s appointments with you, or would you prefer privacy during this time? There is no right or wrong here. It is what works for you.
 

The Perfect Adoptive Family is Waiting for You

As difficult as times can seem right now, the perfect adoptive family is out there right now praying for their dreams of parenthood to come true. Adoption can be a true blessing for you, your baby, and the adoptive family. Your adoption coordinator will help you create an adoption plan and be there by your side throughout your adoption journey.