When I first started my adoption journey, I wanted a white stork to just drop the baby off on my doorstep. I wanted to see him or her in a Victorian wicker basket swaddled in a pastel pink or blue blanket. I imagined opening the door, gazing down on my precious heir and with one fell swoop parenthood would begin.
After years of dealing with infertility and several pregnancy losses, I desperately wanted a break, something easy that would bring me into parenthood. As usual, I discovered that adoption is not always easy; however, the rewards are great for the informed and caring. After speaking to other adoptive parents and reading some informative books on open adoption, I had a new awareness of the value of openness.
We eventually adopted a beautiful little boy at five weeks, after a long, drawn-out, and difficult adoption. But, even after the heartache and pain, I still believed that my son deserved to know about his birth parents and that his adoption was to be celebrated. For without my son’s beloved birth mother, I would not be a mother myself.
We both deeply loved the same child and wanted the best for his life. The love and courage his birth mother had to give my son and me allowed me to feel some of the pain of loss and heartbreak that she and most birth mothers quite naturally experience.
This information was excerpted from a book written by Lifetime Adoption’s Founder Mardie Caldwell, AdoptingOnline.com. To learn more about how you can adopt a baby or child, please give Lifetime Adoption a call: 1.727.493.0933 or visit LifetimeAdoption.com.