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Birth Mother Stories: The Road To Open Adoption

There are many reasons why women consider placing a child for adoption. There are as many birth mother stories as there are birth mothers.

Some are teenagers who haven’t finished high school and aren’t ready to become parents. Others have just gotten a surprise positive pregnancy test and are considering options for their unplanned pregnancy. And yet still others already have children that they’re struggling to feed and support; adding another child just isn’t possible for them.

Just as every life situation for expectant moms is different, so are their reasons for choosing a particular adoptive family. Many young women have hopes for their children that go far beyond simply finding a roof to put over the child’s head and food to put in their tummies.

We thought it might be helpful to look at some birth mother stories and to hear in their own words the reasons why they made the loving choice to place their baby for adoption.

The Wishes of Birth Moms

Here are some of the things our birth mothers have said about the adoption process.

“I’m expecting a baby boy and I’m 32 weeks along. I live in Washington and would like an adoptive family living nearby, so I can visit my son once or twice a year. I was a smoker before I found out I was pregnant, but I’ve cut down a lot since then.”

“I’m African American and so is my baby’s father. We’re hoping to place with an African American couple who are religious and attend church regularly. I’d like to stay in touch through emails and Facebook after I choose adoption for my baby.”

“I got pregnant off a one-night stand. Neither of us are ready to be parents! I’d like for the adoption center to pick the family for my baby. And, once I put my baby up for adoption, I don’t want any contact in the future.”

“Right now, I’m parenting four small children on my own and I feel adoption for my fifth child would be best. I want to place my baby up for adoption with an adoptive family who feels education is as important as I do. I want my baby to have more educational opportunities than I did. I’d like an open adoption with letters, photos, and visits.”

“I grew up Catholic and so I’d like to place my baby girl with a couple who are devout Catholics. I’d love it if the couple would send me updates on my daughter through letters, emails, and photos. I don’t have any insurance, so I’ll need help paying some of the medical costs for this pregnancy.”

Additional Birth Mother Stories 

Below you will find four videos of birth mothers who have shared their adoption story with us.

Kasey, for example, chose open adoption because she “didn’t want there to be any awkwardness as (my daughter) got older and was like, ‘Where’s my birth mom?’” Kasey encourages birth mothers to “be open about your cares and concerns. I’m sure every single adoptive family will understand that.”

Hannah was adopted — as were her four siblings. She says she was “just devastated” when, as a high school sophomore, she found out she was pregnant.

“Obviously, if my situation had been better I would have kept her and parented her,” Hannah says of her choice to place her daughter for adoption. “But I knew it was best for her to have the family that she has now. Just knowing that I’m placing my daughter into a better situation than I could provide for her just gave me comfort.”

Adrianne had a similar experience with her own unplanned pregnancy.

“When I first found out I was pregnant, I thought my life was over,” she says. “I was in disbelief.” 

She gave birth, then gave her son up for adoption to a family that she truly cherishes. Now, Adrianne visits her son once a year in Atlanta for his birthday. She’s also one of Lifetime’s peer support birth moms.

Finally, we introduce you to Sarah, who also made the loving choice of open adoption.

“I knew that (my son) needed so many things I wouldn’t be able to give him,” she says. “And that’s where I had to separate myself. That’s where I had to break my own heart to do what was best for him. I’m so proud that I made this decision for him; he’s flourishing. And I can’t think of anything more wonderful than knowing that he’s gonna be forever loved. I want birth moms to know that they can do anything.”

Lifetime Adoption: A Domestic and Open Adoption Agency

You can read more about what other women are looking for in domestic adoption on our Birth Parents Seeking Families page.

The situations listed on that page are kept private from the public; we don’t include names or any info that would reveal who they are. However, the situations there are actual women that Lifetime is in the process of helping find adoptive parents.

All of the expectant mothers listed there are in different stages of working with Lifetime.

They might be:

  • Viewing adoptive family profiles
  • Interviewing Lifetime adoptive families over the phone
  • In the steps of starting an adoption plan
  • Getting counseling or peer counseling as they decide what to do
  • Setting up WIC, Medicaid, or other assistance that will help them through their pregnancy and adoption at no cost
  • Thinking about adoption using the facts, resources, and materials we’ve sent them

How about you? Are you thinking about placing a child for adoption? Would you like to find adoptive parents for your child?

Please know that it’s never too late for choosing adoption or to find a loving family. Lifetime has had birth mothers start an adoption plan from the hospital in the early stages of labor. You could even wait to get started with adoption until after your baby is born. The choices are yours!

Please call or text Lifetime Adoption at 1-800-923-6784 to start your own adoption story. 

We’re happy to send you free info about adoption and choosing a family as well as pregnancy resources, such as maternity clothing, housing, scholarships and more.

Start your adoption here. Let us know if you have any questions or concerns about adoption agencies, prospective adoptive parents, the rights of biological parents (birth parents) or about our process for finding an adoptive family.

 

Here are 4 short videos of birth mothers sharing their adoption story, and how they came to choose adoption:

 

 

You can read more about what other people are looking for in Christian domestic adoption on our page Birthparents Seeking Families. The situations listed on that page are kept private from the public; we don’t include names or any info that would reveal who they are. But, the situations there are actual women that Lifetime is in the process of helping find adoptive parents. All of the birth mothers listed there are in different stages of working with Lifetime. They might be:

  • Viewing adoptive family profiles
  • Interviewing Lifetime adoptive families over the phone
  • In the steps of starting an adoption plan
  • Getting counseling or peer counseling as they decide what to do
  • Setting up WIC, Medicaid, or other assistance that’ll help them through their pregnancy and to do adoption at no cost
  • Thinking about adoption using the facts, resources, and materials we’ve sent them

Are you thinking about placing a child for adoption and would like to find adoptive parents for your child? Know that it’s never too late to choose adoption. Lifetime has had birth mothers start an adoption plan from the hospital, in the early stages of labor. You could even wait to get started with adoption until after your baby is born. The choices are yours!

 

 

Please call or text Lifetime Adoption at 1.800.923.6784.
We’re happy to send you free info about adoption and choosing a family as well as pregnancy resources such as maternity clothing, housing, scholarships and more.
Start your adoption plan here
.

 

Accreditation

Lifetime Adoption Florida Seal of ApprovalLifetime Adoption, Inc.
is a Licensed Florida Child
Placing Agency.

(License #100096562)

Lifetime Adoption California Seal of ApprovalLifetime Adoption is registered with the State of California under the provisions of the Registry of California Adoption Facilitators. (CA Family Code Section 8632.5)

Small Women Owned Business

Lifetime Adoption Center is a
BBB Accredited Business with an A+ rating

Lifetime Adoption Better Business Bureau Accredited Business

 

Accreditation

Lifetime Adoption, Inc. is a Licensed Florida Child Placing Agency. Florida Seal of Approval
(License #100084254)
Lifetime Adoption is registered with the State of California under the provisions of the Registry of California Adoption Facilitators. (CA Family Code Section 8632.5)  
California Seal of Approval
Small Women Owned Business

Lifetime Adoption Center is a BBB Accredited Business with an A+ rating
Lifetime Adoption Better Business Bureau Accredited Business