Parenting, Adoption vs. Abortion?

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If you are pregnant and making decisions about adoption vs. abortion vs. parenting, we can help you. Every woman experiences a lot of emotions when she finds out she is pregnant. They can range from joy, fear, anger, excitement, embarrassment, panic, and many other feelings. If this is an unexpected pregnancy, those feelings may be even more intense. If that is the case, it is important to give yourself time to process the information and then figure out what you are going to do. You don’t want to make any decisions while in panic mode.

Once you come to terms with your pregnancy, you will realize it really comes down to three choices. You can parent, you can abort, or you can place your baby for adoption. Whichever path you go down, each of the choices will have long-term effects. None should be taken lightly. All have pros and cons, and I suggest you take out a notebook and make a list. This is a very personal decision. You will need to look inside at what your values are and look realistically at what your abilities are to support a baby and what resources are available for you to care for a child.

If possible, speak with someone who will listen and help you think through each option while focusing on what will be best for you and your baby. This may be the father of the baby, a parent, sibling, friend, pastor, or counselor. Make sure it is someone you can trust and someone who will not try and push you in a certain direction but will instead listen to your feelings and thoughts without judgment.

Lets’ go over, in general, some of the things you should think about with each of the alternatives to abortion.


Raising a child can be a wonderful, rewarding part of life, and babies tug at our heartstrings in a way nothing else can. When you are emotionally and financially ready to parent a child, it is a magical change in your life. If you are not ready, you need to take stock of your life and realistically look at your abilities. Here are just a few of the questions you should ask yourself:

  • Do I have a support system such as the baby’s father, family, and friends that I know I can rely on to support me for the long term?
  • Do I have a home that is appropriate to bring a baby home to?
  • Do I have the financial resources to stay home from work or pay for daycare?
  • Am I ready to change my lifestyle?

Becoming a parent changes everything in your life. All of a sudden, this baby is relying on you to care for, love, and protect them. The baby becomes the most important thing in your life, and her needs must come before your own. Babies may keep you up all night. Toddlers will try your patience and take a lot of energy, and then there are sports teams or boy scouts and other activities that take your time and resources. Then you get to head into the teenage years.

Parenting is wonderful and rewarding when you are ready, but it is hard.

Adoption vs. Abortion – What Does Abortion Mean?

Abortion means terminating your pregnancy. Depending on how far along you are and what state you live in will determine your options. A doctor can perform an abortion, or up to 9 weeks there is an abortion pill.

Some think this is an easy way to deal with an unwanted pregnancy. This option does require a lot of thought, and counseling is advised. Many women have long-term regret feel guilt, and while there may be a sense of relief, there is also sadness.

There are also potential physical risks with both the abortion procedure and the abortion pill. They can lead to infertility issues, infection, heavy bleeding, and even death.

Before you make this decision, make sure that you research the baby’s developmental stages during pregnancy and consider the effects on your body that come along with abortion. It is important to mention that if you take the abortion pill and change your mind after you take the first pill, you can call a hotline at 877-558-0333, and they will put you in touch with a doctor who may be able to reverse the effects. Please be sure to read all about the alternatives to abortion before making this decision.

Adoption vs. Abortion – What’s Involved With Adoption?

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Adoption is another choice if parenting is not an option. Adoption can be a positive choice, and modern, open adoption means you will not have to say goodbye to your baby forever. You can receive updates, pictures, Zoom time, and even visits. You pick the family to adopt your baby and decide what kind and how much contact to have after the adoption is final. You can watch your child grow up and thrive in their adoptive home and know you made a loving choice for your baby and made an adoptive family’s dreams of growing their family come true.

There may be a situation where you decide to parent but find that it turns out it is not the right choice for you and your baby. Know that it is never too late to choose adoption. You can always call or text Lifetime at 800-923-6784.

Adoption will also come with a lot of different emotions. You will probably feel grief, sadness and joy, and happiness. You may go through those feelings one at a time or have them all at the same time. Counseling is an important part of the adoption journey to help you work through all those feelings.

3 Choices: Alternatives to Abortion

These are three life-changing choices. Make sure you completely think through each option before you choose. You do not want to have regrets later that you made a rash decision and then feel it was the wrong one. You need to consider both your future and well-being and your baby’s future and well-being.
Be true to your heart and realistic about your situation. Making this decision may seem impossible, and it can be easy to put off, but it is a decision that will have to be made. If you are unsure, seek counseling to help you work through your thoughts and feelings about adoption vs. abortion vs. parenting.

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