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Open Adoption History

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Open adoption is the most common form of adoption today. This process comprises about 80 percent of modern, domestic adoptions. Unfortunately, many people still think of adoption as it was in the bulk of the 20th century. The closed Christian adoptions of bygone days continue to permeate the culture, even though they are increasingly rare.

Adoptions of the Past

Closed adoptions are adoptions in which the birth mother relinquishes all rights to her child. She takes no active role in selecting the birth parents. She does not have a future relationship with child, nor does she have any direct information about his or her placement. In some cases, the birth mother does not even get a chance to hold the baby once it is born.

Closed adoptions became the norm in the early 20th century. They were facilitated by government agencies that employed social workers to place children with parents. The files were kept secret and were even sometimes destroyed. Adoptive parents rarely knew anything about the birth mother. Children grew not knowing who their biological parents were or why they were placed for adoption.

Women who were pregnant and unable to care for the child, for any reason, were often deemed as unsavory and shameful. This stretched to the act of adoption. Children who were adopted would feel as though they were somehow to blame. Their lives would be haunted by the notion that there was something wrong with them because an unknown, unseen person did not want to raise them.

Why Christians Have Changed Their Minds

As adult adoptees grew, it became apparent that closed adoptions are unhealthy in most instances. These adults sought out their birth parents, hoping to find closure and answers to questions. They also spoke out against the practice of keeping information hidden. Christian adoptions slowly became more open. Soon, studies were conducted on children who were now in these open adoptions. The findings were that they were much happier and well adjusted than the children of closed adoptions.

By the end of the 20th century, open adoptions became more commonplace. This was not without struggles. Stereotypes persisted, some that still exist today, that birth parents may change their minds if they have easy access to the children. Though there is no foundation in this argument, it is still a fear among those who may have thought about the process but have not yet done adequate research.

Christians embrace these families that are built not out of blood but out of love. Christians have chosen to accept open adoptions as the best option in most cases. They also offer love and prayers to those families who are better served by closed adoptions. Christians do this because they know that all types of families are important in the eyes of God.

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“We have settled on an awesome place for adoption. They are so helpful to us as adoptive parents and have so many awesome birth mother resources. Then you have to do research on different types of adoption. Outside of Domestic or International adoption, you have to decide on open or closed adoption. This was really scary for us. Almost everyone I know who is adopted or have been touched by adoption, have dealt with closed adoption so we were really unsure of how open adoption really worked. We found out that the place we are working with does almost all open adoptions. So we knew that we would want education on what open adoption entails. We learned so much about open adoption. I learned that there are different types of open adoption. Some sweet birth mamas wants just letter and picture updates, some want those and yearly visits. We discussed who does the traveling for the visits and what the visits kind of entail. The thought of having this sweet woman in our lives terrified me. Paul and I talked a lot about it and began feeling much better about things. Then we got a book in the mail from the founder of the organization we are working with and opened up to the chapter about open adoption. The book helped educate us on what open adoption really was, and when we finished reading about it and talked, we felt so excited about this the woman who was going to bless us with a child being a big part of our lives.”
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