Many adoptive parents struggle with creating an adoption profile. It’s hard to know exactly what a birth mother would want to know about you and still feel like you’re humble and grateful for the opportunity to connect with her through those few pages!
After all, we live in a time where everyone shares everything with just about anyone, yet frowns on “TMI.” There is a balance to strike when it comes to your adoption profile, and it is possible to present yourself without bragging about your life or begging for her sympathies.
Remember women who are thinking about adoption want to learn about you! For many birth mothers, the deciding factor for her, when she was thinking about adoption, was finding the RIGHT adoptive family for her child.
Here’s our list of 4 things your profile should always do:
- Introduce yourself; invite her to her to learn about you and your life, beyond just a “handshake introduction.” Share about why you’re hoping to adopt, where you live, and vital info about yourselves such as what you do for a living. It’s also nice to share about your favorite hobbies. You never know, your love of scrapbooking might be something that a birth mother is also interested in, and allow her to feel a connection with you.
- Express interest in her and room for her child in your life. Remember, it’s not all about you and your need/desire for a baby.
- Create adoption awareness by sharing that you’re helping her to learn as much as she can about open adoption. It’s important to share how much future contact you’re open to with her, and be honest.
- Invite her to learn more at the end of your profile. This invitation leaves her wanting to learn more! Tell her how she can talk or message with you, as well as how she can get more information about you.
Founder of Lifetime Adoption, adoptive mom, adoption expert, and Certified Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P).
Since 1986, adoption expert Mardie Caldwell has been dedicated to bringing couples and birth parents together in order to fulfill their dreams.
“Many years ago, I was also searching for a child to adopt. We didn’t know where or how to get started. Through research, determination, and a prayer, our dream of a family became reality. I started with a plan, a notebook, assistance from a caring adoption consultant and a lot of hard work; this was my family I was building. We had a few heartaches along the way, but the pain of not having children was worse!
Within weeks we had three different birth mothers choose us. We were overwhelmed and delighted. Many unsettling events would take place before our adoption would be finalized, many months later. Little did I know that God was training and aligning me for the adoption work I now do today. It is my goal to share with our families the methods and plans which succeed and do not succeed. I believe adoption should be affordable and can be a wonderful “pregnancy” for the adoptive couple.
I have also been on both sides of infertility with the loss of seven pregnancies and then conceiving by new technology, giving birth to a healthy daughter. I have experienced first-hand the emotional pain of infertility and believe my experience allows me to serve your needs better.
It is my hope that for you, the prospective parents, your desire for a child will be fulfilled soon.”