Once you adopt, you will need to wait in your birth mother’s state for ICPC to clear.
ICPC stands for the Interstate Compact on the Placement of Children; it’s a contract amongst states and territories that allows them to work together to make sure that children who are placed into an adoptive family outside of their birth state get the right support services.
During the wait to go home, here are 8 ways that you can make baby’s first days memorable:
- Bond with your baby by having “down time” outside of the hospital as a new family
- Explore landmarks in the area that are baby-friendly; these outings will become part of your child’s precious adoption story!
- Spend time with your baby’s birth mother. If she desires, arrange visits with her. In open adoption, you may have an agreement for future visits. She’ll cherish these days spent with her newly-born son or daughter.
- Get family portraits taken. Schedule a family photo shoot in town, as a special keepsake of where your child was born and where you became a family!
- Take lots of photos!
- Keep a journal, and record how the adoption is progressing, your thoughts, and “firsts” about your baby. These written memories can become a cherished addition to his or her baby book.
- Rest now, before you get home and have tons of people coming by the house to see your baby!
- Ask for help from your family or friends while you’re away. They can help you by getting things ready for when you come home.
Successful adoptive parents: did you do any activities while you waited to go home that we’ve forgotten here? Please share with us by leaving a comment below!
Founder of Lifetime Adoption, adoptive mom, adoption expert, and Certified Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P).
Since 1986, adoption expert Mardie Caldwell has been dedicated to bringing couples and birth parents together in order to fulfill their dreams.
“Many years ago, I was also searching for a child to adopt. We didn’t know where or how to get started. Through research, determination, and a prayer, our dream of a family became reality. I started with a plan, a notebook, assistance from a caring adoption consultant and a lot of hard work; this was my family I was building. We had a few heartaches along the way, but the pain of not having children was worse!
Within weeks we had three different birth mothers choose us. We were overwhelmed and delighted. Many unsettling events would take place before our adoption would be finalized, many months later. Little did I know that God was training and aligning me for the adoption work I now do today. It is my goal to share with our families the methods and plans which succeed and do not succeed. I believe adoption should be affordable and can be a wonderful “pregnancy” for the adoptive couple.
I have also been on both sides of infertility with the loss of seven pregnancies and then conceiving by new technology, giving birth to a healthy daughter. I have experienced first-hand the emotional pain of infertility and believe my experience allows me to serve your needs better.
It is my hope that for you, the prospective parents, your desire for a child will be fulfilled soon.”