It is one thing to wait for the bus, it is quite another to wait for an adoption. As an adoptive mother myself, I understand the urgency and stress inherent in the waiting process. I remember trying to fill my days with distractions, so as not to hyper focus on a progression of which I had no control.
There was the swim club. There was the Bunco group. The local Costco knew me by name! I worked long hours, took longer walks and learned to bake bread. I spent hours in the library and on-line, reading up on adoption issues. My friends patiently listened to my tear-filled phone calls
I scoured websites for photo listings of children looking for adoptive homes. A short phone call would inevitably reveal that the child had been placed or had severe mental/emotional delays. I would be discouraged, cry some more and get right back on the computer. My husband and I really wanted a baby to raise. I instinctively knew viewing the pictures of “waiting” children was not a healthy pastime for me. We were heading in a different direction.
I am used to setting goals and working hard to see that those goals are accomplished. I am a take charge kind of person. It was completely out of character for me to do my part (in the adoption process), then sit back and wait. Wait? How do I do that? My husband is a naturally patient person, but I had a difficult time letting go of the control and the timing.
Now that I am a parent, I realize that the wait has helped me love my children in a deeper way. I am a better mother, because of what I went through to get to this point. The wait taught me to be more patient. The frustration helped me let go of the unnecessary. Dealing with adoption professionals taught me to trust others. Speaking with birth mothers helped me grow in compassion and understanding.
I would like to encourage you, today to have faith in the process. Appreciate this time of refinement. We honor you and are committed to helping you build your family.
Some of us at Lifetime have adopted. Some of us are adoptees. And other still know the plight of infertility issues. All of us will work tirelessly to help you realize your dreams of adopting a baby. Founder, Mardie Caldwell’s original vision has not changed : to see the miracle of Adoption touch all who are called to parenthood in this way.
You ought to feel comforted by our single-minded focus on your behalf. We truly have your best interests at heart. Please contact us if you have any questions or just need to talk. You have a safe and confidential haven in Lifetime Adoption.