Gathering Strength in Your Adoption Journey

by | Jan 21, 2016 | Adoptive Families Blog

Sad couple sit on a bench by the oceanWhen things seem slow-in-coming with your adoption, gathering strength might feel challenging. Waiting to adopt can tax even a well-rooted faith; you may even question God’s presence or faithfulness at times. It may even feel like God has forgotten you. You may wonder if you’re even on track with His plan for your life.

On those dark days, don’t let go of promises God has given us! Allow yourself to grow stronger in faith as you give praise to God while waiting on His timing, remembering that God is able to do what he has promised, which is always for the good of those he calls. He hasn’t forgotten you!

“Yet I am confident I will see the Lord’s goodness while I am here in the land of the living.” Psalm 27:13

Psalm 43 offers a brave and genuine prayer for anyone in a season of waiting:

“For you are God, my only safe haven. Why have you tossed me aside? Why must I wander around in grief..? Send out your light and your truth; let them guide me. Let them lead me…to the place where you live. There I will go to…God—the source of all my joy. I will praise you with my harp, O God, my God! Why am I discouraged? Why is my heart so sad? I will put my hope in God! I will praise Him again—my Savior and my God!”

In Romans we’re reminded that Abraham, while he waited for God to fulfill a promise of a son, “grew strong in his faith” and we’re urged to walk in Abraham’s footsteps. “Abraham never wavered in believing God’s promise. In fact, his faith grew stronger, and in this he brought glory to God. He was fully convinced that God is able to do whatever he promises.” (Romans 4:20-21)

Even when the circumstances or evidence around you seem uncertain, remember those who came before us who also walked through the difficulty of waiting, who grew in faith and became a model of perseverance and praise. As you wait, allow your faith to grow a deep understanding of what it means to praise God at all times.

Here’s a prayer for adoptive parents-in-waiting:

“Lord God, thank you for remaining with me while I wait upon the next step in my adoption and for my family to grow through adoption. You have promised your love will never end and your mercies are new every morning—thank you! Great is your faithfulness to me! Help me experience your grace as I walk through the waiting with a growing faith. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.”

* It helps to remember you’re not alone in your experience as you wait to adopt. The stories of recent adoptions can help when you need encouragement! They can be a validating and inspiring reminder that, as adoptive mother Lauren puts it, “God calls us to this path for a reason and we won’t find out why if we give up.” Watch her story and others at

Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P.

Written by Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P.

Founder of Lifetime Adoption, adoptive mom, adoption expert, and Certified Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P).

Since 1986, adoption expert Mardie Caldwell has been dedicated to bringing couples and birth parents together in order to fulfill their dreams.

“Many years ago, I was also searching for a child to adopt. We didn’t know where or how to get started. Through research, determination, and a prayer, our dream of a family became reality. I started with a plan, a notebook, assistance from a caring adoption consultant and a lot of hard work; this was my family I was building. We had a few heartaches along the way, but the pain of not having children was worse!

Within weeks we had three different birth mothers choose us. We were overwhelmed and delighted. Many unsettling events would take place before our adoption would be finalized, many months later. Little did I know that God was training and aligning me for the adoption work I now do today. It is my goal to share with our families the methods and plans which succeed and do not succeed. I believe adoption should be affordable and can be a wonderful “pregnancy” for the adoptive couple.

I have also been on both sides of infertility with the loss of seven pregnancies and then conceiving by new technology, giving birth to a healthy daughter. I have experienced first-hand the emotional pain of infertility and believe my experience allows me to serve your needs better.

It is my hope that for you, the prospective parents, your desire for a child will be fulfilled soon.”

Read More About Mardie Caldwell

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