Most birth mothers today want an open adoption. Open adoption can mean anything from posting photos of your child on Facebook, to meeting in person.
Deciding on the appropriate place to meet up in-person can sometimes be tricky. Today, we’re going to share a few tips and ideas for open adoption visit locations.
You’ll want your open adoption visits to at a location where you can talk, have fun, and see the child(ren) play. Choosing a place to meet may be stressful. In order to take care of the planning part of your visit, we’ve compiled a list of the top 10 places to meet for your open adoption visit:
- A park. This is an easy choice, since so most towns have multiple parks. Parks are typically free (or inexpensive) and offer an easygoing setting. Options at parks include going for a walk, playing on the playground, picnicking, or going on a bike ride.
- Recreation center. These offer the chance to share interests you have in common, and see the child having fun. Some possible activities at a recreation centers are an arcade, bowling, go-carts, bowling, putt-putt, or a maze.
- A local event. During the year, most towns have events and festivals designed for all ages. Example events include fireworks, farmer’s markets, street food festivals, art shows, the fair, and sports events.
- The water. Meeting at a beach during the summer months is a fun location, whether it’s at the ocean or a lake.
- Theme park. This may be a more expensive spot to meet up, but kids love it! Theme parks and amusement parks have a wide range of rides and things to do. Seeing the children have a great time is fun for both the adoptive parents and the birth parents.
- The zoo. Visit a wildlife park, zoo, or aquarium nearby. These meet-up locations are educational, and the parents will enjoy watching the child’s wonder at the wildlife. Most zoos will have a kid area, where your child is able to have some hands-on fun with the animals and create crafts.
- Coffee shop or restaurant. These locations offer you a great place to see each other in person and catch up. You child’s birth parents will treasure the chance to see what your child’s favorite food might be.
- Holiday events. Year-round, there are lots of events that make for perfect open adoption visit spots. Examples include 4th of July fireworks and parade, Easter egg hunts, visits to the pumpkin patch, and viewing the Christmas lights. These ideas are typically pretty inexpensive, and can be a lot of fun!
- “Girl’s Day” or “Guy’s Day.” Your visit doesn’t have to include everyone; girl’s days and guy’s days allow you have more individualized time as your child gets older. Consider having a girls-only day and see a show or go shopping. Or, you could have a guys-only day and play sports, go fishing or go camping together.
- Water park. This location is a wonderful way to cool off on a hot summer’s day. Water parks offer something for everyone, and also allow all to get involved in the fun of the day.
Having fun with your child’s birth parents and your child is a fabulous way to bond. What you want to avoid in your open adoption visit is a boring spot where you all end up hoping the visit will end. On the other hand, you don’t want your meet-up to be so jammed with events that you don’t have time to talk. When your open adoption connection matures over time, it’ll get easier to choose where to meet up.
Learn more about open adoption and how it works in real life by listening to Lifetime adoptive couple’s stories on AdoptionTeleconference.com.
Founder of Lifetime Adoption, adoptive mom, adoption expert, and Certified Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P).
Since 1986, adoption expert Mardie Caldwell has been dedicated to bringing couples and birth parents together in order to fulfill their dreams.
“Many years ago, I was also searching for a child to adopt. We didn’t know where or how to get started. Through research, determination, and a prayer, our dream of a family became reality. I started with a plan, a notebook, assistance from a caring adoption consultant and a lot of hard work; this was my family I was building. We had a few heartaches along the way, but the pain of not having children was worse!
Within weeks we had three different birth mothers choose us. We were overwhelmed and delighted. Many unsettling events would take place before our adoption would be finalized, many months later. Little did I know that God was training and aligning me for the adoption work I now do today. It is my goal to share with our families the methods and plans which succeed and do not succeed. I believe adoption should be affordable and can be a wonderful “pregnancy” for the adoptive couple.
I have also been on both sides of infertility with the loss of seven pregnancies and then conceiving by new technology, giving birth to a healthy daughter. I have experienced first-hand the emotional pain of infertility and believe my experience allows me to serve your needs better.
It is my hope that for you, the prospective parents, your desire for a child will be fulfilled soon.”