Being pregnant and scared can feel like a huge weight on your shoulders. Maybe you wonder if it’s the right time in your life, and aren’t sure if being a parent is the right choice for you, or your child.
Looking at all the options can be overwhelming, but chances are, if you found out you were pregnant, and instantly felt terrified and trapped, your subconscious might be telling you it’s not the right time to be a mom.
Luckily Lifetime Adoption is here to help you sort through your emotions, and make the best choice for you and your child. Asking yourself a few questions, and answering honestly, can help you decide if adoption might be a smart next step to help you take control of a situation that is causing stress in your life.
1. Is your family supportive of your pregnancy?
Women can do anything and everything. We are amazingly strong and resilient. But being a parent is a full-time job, and it’s a huge help to have family around who can love and support you and a little person who needs not only a mother, but a father, and loving grandparents who accept him or her with open, loving arms.
If your family can’t get on board with having a baby, adoption might be a solution that would allow your child to grow up in a loving family, where support is more readily available.
2. How are you feeling about being a parent?
Aside from possibly being scared to have a baby, how do you feel about eventually being a parent? After the first phase of your baby’s life in your belly is over, there are a lot of responsibilities that come with being a mom.
Are you prepared to give up your social life, sleep quality, and a good portion of your earnings to care for a child? Being a mom is a 24/7 job. Considering adoption when you are not ready to have a baby isn’t selfish, it’s actually an extremely generous gift you can give your child, to be raised by a family who is ready and willing to handle the intense demands of a young child.
3. Can you financially support a child?
Kids are expensive. Beyond the diapers, medical, child care, food, and housing costs, there are enriching activities that open a child’s world up, and help them develop and grow. Kids who participate in music and sports programs not only get the chance to expand their social circles, but they tend to be healthier.
Are you prepared to spend the money on extracurricular activities that would enrich your child’s life? Do you have enough money to cover the basics? Allowing a family with financial stability to love and care for your child assures that they grow up in a family that can provide opportunities you want for your child.
4. What do you want for your child’s life?
Imagine what you would have wanted your ideal childhood to look like. Did you have the childhood you wanted, and if not, do you want better for your baby?
Wanting the best for your child makes you a good person, and if you aren’t ready or in a position to provide that, adoption is a kind and sensible way to make sure your child experiences the happy childhood you want for them.
Finding out you are pregnant when you are in a good position, emotionally prepared, and ready to have a baby doesn’t feel as scary. If you ask yourself these questions, and suspect that maybe you are scared to be pregnant because you aren’t ready, then adoption might be a good solution.
Adoption gives you the chance to give your child everything you’d want for him or her. It’s an admirable decision to make when faced with tough choices, and gives a birth mom piece of mind knowing everyone has the best of life at the end of the day.
If you are pregnant and scared, and feel like adoption might be the best choice for you and your baby, call our 24 hour birth mom support line at 800-923-6784, or fill out the contact form online. We can help answer all your questions about adoption, and help you move past this confusing time in your life, knowing you made the very best choices for you and your child.
As the Chief Operating Officer (COO) of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.
Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.
As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.