No matter what you feel when you find out you are pregnant, you always have choices. Even if you have other children in the house already, there are many unplanned pregnancy options for when your baby is a second or third child.
There are lots of reasons why a parent might choose not to raise another child. Money problems, an uncertain future, or the stress of already raising other kids might all factor into the decision to look into adoption.
Keeping an Unplanned Pregnancy
Following through with an unplanned pregnancy and raising the child as your own adds one more person to your family. If you aren’t sure that you can handle the responsibility of that extra mouth to feed and child to care for, ask yourself these questions:
Do you want another child?
Are you financially ready to support another child?
Does the father want to help raise the child?
Will a baby be welcome and safe in your home?
Will you be able to care for your other children if another baby comes into the home?
Some of these questions are difficult to answer. Think long and hard about the future and be realistic about the answers. A baby is a big commitment, as you know, and there are other choices you can make if you decide having another baby is not something you can do right now.
Unplanned Pregnancy Options Include Adoption
Regardless of how many children you already have, you can consider adoption at any point in your pregnancy. There are a lot of loving families who want to adopt, and if having another baby isn’t the right choice for you, then maybe considering an open adoption is something to think about.
With an open adoption you can still have contact with your baby as he grows up with his adoptive family. His siblings can know him, and he can receive information about you and understand the reasons you chose adoption. Open adoption fosters a healthy relationship between a birth mother and an adoptive family, and results in more people to love and cherish your child.
When you choose an adoptive family to raise your baby, you and the family decide how much contact you will have with the child, and how involved you will be with his upbringing.
There are lots of emotions involved when you find out you are pregnant, and having a professional to discuss your unplanned pregnancy options with can make things so much easier. Adoption coordinators at Lifetime Adoption are trained to talk with women and help them through difficult times and make hard decisions easier. If you think you might want to have a talk with someone who can present you with all your options and listen with a compassionate ear, call the pregnancy hotline at 800.923.6784.
As the Chief Operating Officer (COO) of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.
Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.
As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.