Why Choose Adoption?
“I chose adoption when I got pregnant as a sophomore in high school, and I realized — and so did my baby’s father — that we were not ready to be parents. So we made an adoption plan and chose the parents for our son. He’s now a happy 6-year-old boy, and we get updates on him through FB and visit once a year.”
Why choose adoption? There are so many answers to this question. And there’s so much help and resources for parents considering adoption.
Birth mothers in the United States can find an adoptive family for their child with the help of adoption professionals, adoption attorneys, and domestic adoption agencies. Plus, there are support groups for women who put their baby up for adoption.
With so much help available, people choose to go through the adoption process based on their own personal needs.
Why Women Choose Adoption
Here are some reasons why women choose adoption. These are taken directly from Lifetime Adoption founder Mardie Caldwell’s book, “So I Was Thinking About Adoption … Considering Your Choices”:
- Not ready to be a mom (more on this below)
- To provide safety and stability for the baby
- Adoption offers an opportunity for a solid future for the baby
- Can’t afford another child
- College or other future plans
- Lifestyle is not conducive to raising a child
- The child is a product of rape or incest
- There’s no support from the birth father
- The desire for their child to have a solid, two-parent family upbringing
- Mom has had prior involvement with social services
- Mental illness
- Jail sentence
A lot of birth mothers ask how to choose from so many good adoption homes. With Lifetime’s support, they talk with family members and speak with waiting families who want to adopt a child.
In lots of cases, young women are not ready to be a parent, but they want what’s best for their child. Sometimes, it was an unplanned pregnancy. So they look for adoption agencies to help with an adoption plan.
With open adoptions, they then choose a new family for their child. This happens after they have looked at profiles of possible loving adoptive parents.
One of the best ways to find out why women choose adoption is to ask them. Why do women choose adoption?
As we mentioned earlier, many women come to Lifetime because they love their child and realize that they are not ready to be the kind of parent they need to be at this time in their life. Others find themselves in circumstances that might prevent them from parenting. Many birth moms have plans for college or careers and aren’t quite ready to devote their time to raising a child. Sometimes, there are money issues that would make it difficult to manage life and a baby.
So why choose adoption? Each reason is valid, and the staff at Lifetime understands that you only want the best for your child.
We realize that choosing adoption for a child can be a very difficult decision for some. We want to help you explore potential adoption choices, guide you through your options, and let you determine what is right for you and your child at this time in your life, always without pressure.
If you are considering placing your baby up for adoption, we’re here to talk with you 24 hours of the day, 7 days a week. Call or text anytime at 1-800-923-6784.
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