Your Choices and Rights With Modern Adoption
There was a time not long ago that birth parents had virtually no options when it came to the future of their child. Often, the placement was made without the birth mother’s consent or knowledge of that child’s future family.
Today, modern adoption gives you a number of adoption choices. If you’re considering adoption, it’s good to know what your rights and choices are.
The Adoptive Family
You’ll receive profiles of families wishing to adopt. You can review these families and choose the couple that you feel is the best for your child. You can have any number of requirements or requests when it comes to adoptive parents. You might want to make sure there is a stay-at-home parent to provide full-time care. You might want an adoptive family who can offer a strong religious upbringing or a heavy emphasis on education. You might even base your decision on whether or not the adoptive parents share the same cultural background as you do. It is entirely your right in a modern adoption to choose your baby’s parents based on whatever criteria you decide.
Once you have narrowed down your choice of adoptive families, you can talk to them on the phone or possibly in person. This will help you make the decision about which parents are the right parents for your child.
The Birth Experience
Childbirth is an experience that no one other than the birth mother should dictate in any way. Giving birth is personal, emotional and physical. So, you have the right to decide where and how you’ll give birth. You can also choose who can be in attendance.
Open adoption allows birth moms to request the presence of the adoptive parents at the hospital. You may grow close to them over the course of your pregnancy and want them to be with you when you give birth. You might also see this as a time for the adoptive parents to start bonding with the baby. On the other hand, you might prefer to be alone with your baby until you sign adoption paperwork.
Along with the birth itself, your adoption choices allow you to include adoptive parents at doctor’s appointments or ultrasounds if you wish to do so.
The Ongoing Relationship
Studies show that birth moms and adopted children lead happier, more satisfying lives when they have an ongoing relationship. An open adoption allows birth mothers to communicate with their child and his or her family with phone calls, emails, social media or even face-to-face visits.
You can choose what type and how much contact you wish to have with your child as they grow up. You might want to see your child a few times per year. You may wish to spend holidays and birthdays with your child, or you might be more comfortable with a distant relationship that has no person-to-person contact.
The type, length and frequency of the relationship is entirely up to you. But, make sure to talk with the adoptive couple about future contact before the adoption placement happens. This allows both you and the adoptive family to plan for the future.
Lifetime Adoption, Inc.
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Lifetime Adoption is registered with the State of California under the provisions of the Registry of California Adoption Facilitators. (CA Family Code Section 8632.5)