One question that many couples have on their minds during their adoption wait is “when should we get the nursery ready?” Since getting your future baby’s nursery ready is a personal choice, we’ll describe here some of the reasons for and against getting it set up.
Some adoptive couples feel more in control and that they’re making progress during their adoption journey as they arrange and decorate the nursery. They enjoy daydreaming in the nursery about the day they’ll be able to bring their baby home. The nursery may then turn into a symbol of anticipation and confidence that a baby will soon be part of the family.
But for other adoptive couples, having a ready nursery may be an upsetting reminder that they haven’t adopted yet. It can become a symbol of pain and loss, and it could be too difficult to even think about a nursery until a baby is home in their arms. Some adoptive couples in this mindset have found it helpful to create baby registries online. Family and friends then can help them get all of the gear needed for their baby.
All in all, the choice of whether or not to get a nursery ready is a personal decision that has to be right for you. It’ll greatly help you in the long run if you can learn as much as possible about open adoption now. Sign up for our free open adoption webinar series here!
Founder of Lifetime Adoption, adoptive mom, adoption expert, and Certified Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P).
Since 1986, adoption expert Mardie Caldwell has been dedicated to bringing couples and birth parents together in order to fulfill their dreams.
“Many years ago, I was also searching for a child to adopt. We didn’t know where or how to get started. Through research, determination, and a prayer, our dream of a family became reality. I started with a plan, a notebook, assistance from a caring adoption consultant and a lot of hard work; this was my family I was building. We had a few heartaches along the way, but the pain of not having children was worse!
Within weeks we had three different birth mothers choose us. We were overwhelmed and delighted. Many unsettling events would take place before our adoption would be finalized, many months later. Little did I know that God was training and aligning me for the adoption work I now do today. It is my goal to share with our families the methods and plans which succeed and do not succeed. I believe adoption should be affordable and can be a wonderful “pregnancy” for the adoptive couple.
I have also been on both sides of infertility with the loss of seven pregnancies and then conceiving by new technology, giving birth to a healthy daughter. I have experienced first-hand the emotional pain of infertility and believe my experience allows me to serve your needs better.
It is my hope that for you, the prospective parents, your desire for a child will be fulfilled soon.”