Finding someone to talk to about your pregnancy fears is a great first step to figuring out what to do next. You might be confused about what your options are, scared about the future, and unsure of who to talk to for honest and friendly advice
Family and friends are the natural choice when you think about confiding in someone, but despite their best intentions, the people closest to us aren’t always the best people to talk to about major life decisions we need to make. Our loved ones will have a personal stake in the way we choose to solve our problem, and might not be able to offer a compassionate shoulder or unbiased advice.
More often than not, your parents will have strong feelings about your pregnancy one way or the other. Either they want to be grandparents so badly that they beg you to keep the baby, even if it’s not the right choice for your life, or they think you are too young and can’t be supportive of your pregnancy.
Friends can be a great shoulder to cry on, but may not have all the information. Sometimes a friend can try to convince you to keep a baby and be a mom even if you don’t feel ready, simply because they already have one and don’t want to be alone. Or maybe a friend doesn’t like the idea of a baby taking away from your time together.
No one means to be selfish, but as humans, we all put our personal spin on every situation we encounter. The best way to get honest, accurate, and confidential advice is to talk with a professional pregnancy counselor. Follow these tips to get the most out of your pregnancy counseling call.
Choose the Right Counselor
If you are worried about who might be on the other end of the line, and whether or not they are qualified to give you advice about your pregnancy, it’s best to call someone who has a great track record of helping birth mothers sort out their concerns.
Lifetime Adoption is the nationwide leader in domestic, open adoption, and the coordinators that answer the phone at our pregnancy hotline have helped many women talk through their options. Calls are totally confidential, and the coordinators are all trained to help you by listening carefully to your concerns, offering accurate helpful resources to you, and letting you know you aren’t alone.
Call as Soon as Possible
Don’t wait to call. Being afraid is natural, but making a call and talking with a pregnancy counselor will arm you with all the tools you need to make a smart, calm, and rational decision about your future.
Pregnancy counseling can show you where to find insurance and financial resources, and even free legal advice and scholarship opportunities. The sooner you have all the information, the sooner you can sleep better at night knowing you made an informed choice that is right for you and your baby.
Voice your concerns
It helps to make a list of all the things you are scared of, or have questions about. You don’t have to do this, of course, since the pregnancy coordinators at Lifetime Adoption are trained to ask all the right questions so you can get your answers. But it does help you to have an idea of what scares or confuses you the most, so that when you get off the phone you feel like you covered all the bases.
Be open and honest
Having an honest conversation with someone who will not share your fears with someone else is priceless. Try to remember that your call to Lifetime is confidential, and that person on the other end of the line won’t share your information or feelings with anyone else. You can trust that you are safe, so try to be open and honest about all of your feelings and the situation you are in. That way your coordinator can be sure to give you all of the best information that applies specifically to you and your life.
If you are pregnant, scared, and need someone to talk to, call the Lifetime Adoption 24 hour birth mom support line at 800-923-6784, or fill out the contact form online. We can help answer all your questions about your pregnancy, and offer caring and unbiased advice on how you can make the best choice for you and your baby.
As Vice President of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.
Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.
As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.