pregnant and aloneIt’s hard to think about how your life might change with an unwanted pregnancy. Will the father be upset or happy? Will your parents support you? Are you ready to have a child or will you consider adoption?

If you have decided that you don’t want to tell your friends and family about your unwanted pregnancy, it is completely fine to hide it. There is still confidential, anonymous, and compassionate help for you if you know where to look.

1. Free Book: So I Was Thinking About Adoption

You can download a free copy of So I Was Thinking About Adoption directly from the website, or get it at no charge as part of a free pregnancy kit from Lifetime Adoption. The book covers all of the questions you might be asking yourself about your unwanted pregnancy, and helps you find information about adoption. Questions about how to tell your family about being pregnant if you choose to, and what happens next if you do decide to make an adoption plan are all covered in the book.


The free pregnancy kit includes the book So I Was Thinking About Adoption, a magazine, brochures, and a DVD to help you understand how adoption works. The whole package of informative resources comes in an unmarked package when it’s delivered, so you don’t have to worry about anyone finding out you’re pregnant if you don’t want them to.

2. The 24 Hour Hotline: Crisis Pregnancy Hotline

A simple phone call can help answer a lot of questions. The 24 hour pregnancy hotline is completely confidential and is free to call. When you call you talk to a trained pregnancy coordinator who can help you sort out pregnancy options, find help with housing if you need it, and tell you where you can go for low cost or free maternity clothes and medical care.

3. Make an Adoption Plan

Once you decide to make an adoption plan, confidential qualified help is there for you every step of the way. Finding information about adoptive families, what to eat for a healthy baby, and how to find housing and financial help are all available on Lifetime Adoption’s website and birth parents blog.

4. Lifetime Adoption’s Free Counseling

You can call the birthmother hotline (800-923-6784) any time day or night. There is trained staff on hand and you can have a private conversation with a real live person who has been trained to help answer your questions. You can express any fears or concerns, and even talk to a peer counselor who has been through the same experiences you are now going through.


Hiding your pregnancy is absolutely your choice. And if you do choose to hide it because having a baby isn’t right for you, adoption really is the best choice. All the information you need is available from these sources where you can get confidential advice and find solutions to your problems.

Heather Featherston
Written by Heather Featherston

As Vice President of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.

Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.

As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.

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