Are you wondering whether adoption is the right choice for you and your baby? You might be feeling overwhelmed, scared, alone, and unsure. Let us assure you that you’re not alone. While you may feel like you’re the only one in the world facing an unplanned pregnancy, you’re not. It’s normal to feel that way.
But you’re not the first or the last to walk this path. That can be comforting to hear because it means that there are resources, support, and information available to help you right now. Knowing your options and becoming well-informed can help you to feel more confident about whichever decision you make.
Today, we’re giving you questions you can ask yourself to help decide if parenting or adoption is going to be the right choice for you!
Before we share about adoption, let’s talk about parenting.
Here are 7 questions to ask yourself about parenting your baby:
1. Do I have a support system in place? Will my baby’s father or my family be able to help out?
2. Can I handle caring for my other child(ren) as well as this baby?
3. Who will watch my baby while I’m at school?
4. Who will watch my baby while I’m at work?
5. Can I get all the things needed to care for a baby, like a crib, diapers, bassinet, car seat, baby clothes, and formula?
6. Do I have a stable, safe place to live?
7. Can I support myself and my baby long term?
It’s important to think about and explore these options fully. You can’t decide what choice is right for you until you know more about it.
Here are 5 of the most-asked questions women have about adoption:
Can I choose my baby’s parents?
Yes! In today’s adoptions, you can select your baby’s adoptive parents, interview them, and get to know them before your baby is born.
Will I be able to know how my baby is doing over the years?
Yes, with open adoption! There are varying levels of open adoption, which allow you to receive updates on your child as they grow up. These updates can take the form of emails, FaceTime calls, social media posts, and/or visits with your child and adoptive family over the years.
How do I know my baby will be safe with the adoptive family?
All of Lifetime’s adoptive families have had background checks, screenings, home studies by a social worker, and physical exams by a doctor. Their lives and backgrounds are investigated before they can adopt, to make sure they’re fit to be parents.
What kind of rights would I have?
Until you sign relinquishment papers, you still hold all the rights to your baby and can make decisions about him or her. Once you sign paperwork terminating your parental rights, the adoptive parents receive rights and responsibilities to your baby.
If I choose to make an adoption plan, when is my decision final?
Each state has varying laws regarding when you can sign adoption paperwork and when those papers become final. In most states, you have a revocation period, when you can change your mind. An adoption attorney can help you understand your specific state’s law.
Do you have any questions about adoption? Please pick up the phone and text or call us at 1-800-923-6784. We’re available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week!
Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P., is nationally recognized as an expert on open adoption. A Certiﬁed Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P.), Caldwell is the founder of Lifetime Adoption Center, established in 1986. She has assisted in over 2,000 successful adoptions and was one of the ﬁrst adoption professionals on the Internet.
Caldwell’s life work is dedicated to educating and helping birth parents find the right adoptive parents for their child. She spreads the word about modern adoption through speaking appearances, webinars, online resources, and as a podcast show host.
She has written several award-winning books, including So I Was Thinking About Adoption, the first book of its kind. There are many reasons women choose adoption, and this short book is a comprehensive resource to make the best plan for you and your baby. Caldwell wrote So I Was Thinking About Adoption as a handy guide to the details of the adoption process.
Caldwell has made over 150 media appearances, including ABC News, CBS News, Larry King Live, CNN Headline News, NBC’s The Today Show, CNN’s The Campbell Brown Show, NBC News, KGO Newstalk Radio, CNN’s Black in America II, MSNBC, Fox, PBS, BBC, and Dr. Laura.