What It’s Really Like to Make an Adoption Plan for Your Baby

by | Jul 25, 2017 | Birth Parent Blog

women share what it's like to do adoptionWhy do women choose adoption for their baby? There are so many reasons why, and not one of them are easy. In today’s post, we hear the stories of two women about what it was like for them to choose adoption, and create an adoption plan for their baby:

“I was 22, living at home with my mom and my 2-year-old daughter when I found out I was pregnant again.  Once he found out I was pregnant, my boyfriend disappeared. I knew I didn’t want to get an abortion, and that I couldn’t handle parenting another kid, so I called an adoption place. Since I was confident that adoption was the right choice for my situation, I focused my time and energy on my daughter and on work. 

I was able to narrow down the adoptive families for my baby to my top 3. I spoke with each of them on the phone, and then decided on the adoptive couple that I felt a connection with. I kept working during my pregnancy, delivered, and after healing, went back to work and night school. I was able to get help paying for school through a scholarship from the Lifetime Foundation!

Today, I get updates on my son through photos and videos the adoptive family posts to Facebook. We also meet up in person once a year. Adoption was the best thing I could’ve done for my baby and for my daughter.

When my son was born, I just looked at him. I studied his fingers and toes and kissed the top of his head. I told him how much I loved him and how wonderful his life would be with two people that loved him as much as I did. I knew I’d done the right thing. The adoptive parents came in and carried him home as we’d planned, and I cried, but I never had a doubt that what I did wasn’t the best for him, for me, and for my daughter. I thought a lot about my adoption decision and planned it out a lot, so I know the choice I made was the right one. I don’t have any regrets.”


“I was so upset when I found out I was pregnant! I didn’t have a job, and my life was a hot mess! How did I get pregnant? From a one-night stand with some guy I met at a party. When I saw the positive pregnancy test, my first reaction was doubt, then fear. I made an appointment to get an abortion, but at the last minute, I changed my mind. So, I started looking into adoption and creating an adoption plan.

I looked at adoptive family websites and talked to a few couples. I was able to meet the family I liked the best in person. I really felt for them in their struggles to have a baby, and I decided they were the ones who should raise my baby. 

We talked every week and ended up becoming very close. They traveled to my hometown when my labor started, and stayed until I left the hospital a few days later. Seeing the joy in their faces at becoming parents made me so happy! We still keep in touch, and they send me updates on my daughter. I like that I’m able to always know how my daughter is doing and that she’s in good hands. Now I feel like I can go on and make a better life for myself. It was a tough choice, but I know I did the right thing.”

If you liked hearing the adoption stories from these women, you’ll LOVE the book 
So I Was Thinking About Adoption…Consider Your Choices!

You can download a free copy by clicking here!

Heather Featherston

Written by Heather Featherston

As Vice President of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.

Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.

As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.

Read more about Heather Featherston


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