Recently on Lifetime Adoption’s Facebook page, we asked past adoptive families “If you could give waiting adoptive parents one adoption travel tip, what would it be?” Here’s what people had to say:
“For me it was pack smart. I only brought the necessities (my clothes, toiletries, pre-washed baby clothes and cameras). Everything else was bought when I arrived… Amazon Smile was very helpful and my purchases supported Lifetime Foundation. If you haven’t bought one, buy the car seat local, though you can check it or gate check it, it’s one less thing to manage. I didn’t and really wish I had.”
“I would suggest maybe going down with your birthmother gift if you already have something in mind. The first time we had time to decide on a gift and take one. The second time things move so quickly between meeting the birth mother and delivery I get ended up being taking care of her after her C-section.
In the midst of your excitement, don’t forget your clothes. My husband forgot to put my suitcase in the car…lol. Yes be flexible! Rather than getting upset; I used it as an excuse to shop for me. Also, see if there are accommodations for adoptive parents that the hospital can assist with.
Whatever happens, just remember God is in control!”
“Have plans in place to leave on a moment’s notice. Let your job and anyone else it may effect know that if you get the call, you will have to leave. This way they don’t get upset if you have to leave them shorthanded….they’ll be excited for you! Thankfully I thought to do this ahead of time because before we were even matched, we got the call there was a birth mom in labor. We left as soon as we packed!”
“Always have a snack packed and a bag of some sort in case of sickness. A child gets sick or hungry when you really are not counting on it.”
“If flying home, the day you are scheduled to return to your home ship your belongings home. This allows you to focus on your new child and not worry with luggage and security checks. A simple backpack should be all one needs.”
“Be flexible! Do your research ahead of time. Have a good plan for leaving your home for an extended period of time, your job, most importantly a good plan for your children.”
Do you have questions about adoption that you’d like to get feedback from a past, successful adoptive parent on? Visit Lifetime Adoption’s Facebook page to get the conversation started!
Founder of Lifetime Adoption, adoptive mom, adoption expert, and Certified Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P).
Since 1986, adoption expert Mardie Caldwell has been dedicated to bringing couples and birth parents together in order to fulfill their dreams.
“Many years ago, I was also searching for a child to adopt. We didn’t know where or how to get started. Through research, determination, and a prayer, our dream of a family became reality. I started with a plan, a notebook, assistance from a caring adoption consultant and a lot of hard work; this was my family I was building. We had a few heartaches along the way, but the pain of not having children was worse!
Within weeks we had three different birth mothers choose us. We were overwhelmed and delighted. Many unsettling events would take place before our adoption would be finalized, many months later. Little did I know that God was training and aligning me for the adoption work I now do today. It is my goal to share with our families the methods and plans which succeed and do not succeed. I believe adoption should be affordable and can be a wonderful “pregnancy” for the adoptive couple.
I have also been on both sides of infertility with the loss of seven pregnancies and then conceiving by new technology, giving birth to a healthy daughter. I have experienced first-hand the emotional pain of infertility and believe my experience allows me to serve your needs better.
It is my hope that for you, the prospective parents, your desire for a child will be fulfilled soon.”