In the media, birth mothers are often portrayed as women who decide to “give up” their babies for adoption. From talk shows, to movies, and even to casual chats with friends, the term “give up” is often mentioned in connection with adoption. Today, we’re going to explain why adoption doesn’t mean that you’re giving up.
“Giving up” isn’t what a birth mother is doing when she chooses adoption. The fact is that women don’t “give up” when making an adoption plan for their baby.
The truth is that they’re choosing to give their child a life they might not be able to right now. A life complete with two parents and stability they desire for their child. In choosing adoption instead of abortion, these women aren’t’ thinking about what’s easiest for them. They’re thinking about their child’s needs and select adoption out love for their child.
Today, adoptions happen much differently than they did decades years ago. Back then, a woman had to hand her baby over to the adoptive family, and never saw or heard from them again. She didn’t know how her child grew up.
Birth mothers today are able to see for themselves how their baby grows up. They keep in touch with the adoptive family and their child through emails, phone calls, pictures, letters, and visits.
Adoption Doesn’t Mean That You’re Giving Up
When women choose adoption, they’re also choosing the life they dream for their baby. From family traditions and well-loved pets to education and values, she’s able to select a family that meets all of the hopes she has for her child. So instead of “giving up” their babies, birth mothers are actually doing the opposite. And remember, no matter how far along you are or if your child has already been born, Lifetime can help.
You can talk with an Adoption Coordinator confidentially and with no obligation, by calling 1-800-923-6784.
Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P., is nationally recognized as an expert on open adoption. A Certiﬁed Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P.), Caldwell is the founder of Lifetime Adoption Center, established in 1986. She has assisted in over 2,000 successful adoptions and was one of the ﬁrst adoption professionals on the Internet.
Caldwell’s life work is dedicated to educating and helping birth parents find the right adoptive parents for their child. She spreads the word about modern adoption through speaking appearances, webinars, online resources, and as a podcast show host.
She has written several award-winning books, including So I Was Thinking About Adoption, the first book of its kind. There are many reasons women choose adoption, and this short book is a comprehensive resource to make the best plan for you and your baby. Caldwell wrote So I Was Thinking About Adoption as a handy guide to the details of the adoption process.
Caldwell has made over 150 media appearances, including ABC News, CBS News, Larry King Live, CNN Headline News, NBC’s The Today Show, CNN’s The Campbell Brown Show, NBC News, KGO Newstalk Radio, CNN’s Black in America II, MSNBC, Fox, PBS, BBC, and Dr. Laura.