How to Find a Family Who Will Honor Open Adoption

by | Sep 14, 2018 | Birth Parent Blog

Will the adoptive family keep their open adoption promises?“I’m 30 weeks along, and I’m pretty sure that I’m going to adopt out my baby.  I know I want an open adoption, because I would like to get updates on my daughter as she grows up. But, how can I be sure the adoptive family will keep their promise to stay in contact?” 

Most women choosing adoption today want to stay in contact with their child, through emails, photos, social media posts, or visits. One of the ways to make sure that your baby’s adoptive couple will keep their promise to stay in contact is to find a family that has adopted already. When the adoptive couple has an open adoption relationship with their child’s birth mother, it’s a good sign that they’d be open to future contact with you as well.

These adoptive couples keep an open adoption relationship with their child’s birth family:

jim-kristinJim and Kristin in Nebraska

“We have been blessed through an open adoption before, adding our son and his birth family to ours. Holding our son, Josiah, for the first time and loving him every day since has been a joy.

Getting to know his birth family and keeping those connections has been life-changing.”


Jason and Yava in Indiana

Two years ago, we adopted a beautiful baby girl. She has changed our lives in so many wonderful ways and we are excited to add to our family again! We have a close relationship with our daughter’s birth mother and look forward to doing the same with you through pictures, letters, and visits!”

ryan-emilyRyan and Emily in Louisiana 

“We have experience with open adoption and would look forward to an ongoing relationship with you if you would like.  We were blessed to meet our son William’s birth mother before his adoption. Every year, we see William’s birth mother, half-brother and half-sister. We are open to sharing letters, pictures, and visits!”

luke-christyLuke and Christy in Kentucky

“Over four years ago, we welcomed our daughter, Isabella, into our family through open adoption and have had a wonderful experience getting to know Isabella’s birth mother through phone calls, texts, occasional visits, pictures, and letters.”

jason-deniseJason and Denise in Oregon

“In 2016, we were blessed beyond measure by the adoption of our daughter. We maintain contact with her birth mother and other relatives through social media, and it’s been a great experience being able to share little videos and pictures of her as she meets new milestones.”

paul-britney-1Paul and Britney in Minnesota

“As a young family of four, we’re looking to adopt again.  We have a very open adoption with our daughter Kyah’s birth family. We send pictures and have visits often, and are open to sending letters, pictures, artwork, and possible visits if that interests you.”

samuel-sabrina-1Samuel and Sabrina in Florida

“During our 20-year marriage, we experienced infertility issues and adopted our son, Jabari.  Fortunately, we were present to witness his birth.  Jabari is excited about being a big brother! He talks about wanting to teach his little sister or brother everything he knows.”

Brett and JessBrett and Jess in Michigan

“God has blessed us with two wonderful children through adoption. We have also been blessed by their wonderful birth family, whom we have a great open relationship with and have become like extended family to ours. We are excited to expand our family and to have the opportunity to love and nurture your child/children of any race!”

casey-leahCasey and Leah in Pennsylvania

“We treasure the joy adoption brings, and have experienced its happiness firsthand. We’ve adopted two siblings and Leah was adopted from South Korea. We maintain an open adoption relationship with their birth grandma! We enjoy being outdoors and traveling and are blessed with a large support group.”

Heather Featherston

Written by Heather Featherston

As Vice President of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.

Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.

As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.

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