“I’m Hiding My Pregnancy”

“I’m 19 and a sophomore in college…and I just found out I’m preggo. I don’t want anyone to find out I’m pregnant!

The guy who got me pregnant has made it clear he’s not ready to be a dad and isn’t sticking around. He offered to pay for me to get an abortion.  I’m tempted to do abortion, it seems like an easy way out and no one will find out about my pregnancy.  I’m also thinking about adopting out my baby, but then there’s no way my pregnancy could stay a secret for all nine months! Help!”

Many women choose abortion to hide their pregnancy. However, this is a permanent solution to a temporary situation. The cost to get an abortion ranges from hundreds up to thousands of dollars. On the other hand, not only is adoption free of cost, but you can also get financial help. The adoptive family of your choosing is able to help with pregnancy-related expenses such as rent, food, utilities, transportation and more.

Adoption gives you a compromise: it means that you don’t have to become a mom right now, yet you’re giving a life to your child. While both adoption and abortion are hard choices for a woman to have to make, it might be harder to live with the choice of ending your pregnancy.  Women who choose adoption are able to see the smile on her child’s face through visits, while a woman who has chosen abortion can’t imagine her child’s face at all.

Lifetime will keep your adoption plans private: anything we mail you will be sent in an un-marked envelope or package. And, when we call you, the call will show up as “Unknown” (if you have an iPhone) or “Restricted” if you have a Droid.  Your privacy is very important to us.

It’s also possible to move temporarily to complete an adoption. Know that there’s a way to keep both your pregnancy and your adoption private.

At Lifetime, you’re in control of the adoption process: you pick the adoptive family who will raise your child. You have the option to get updates on your child through pictures, emails, social media posts, and/or visits. All of our adoption services to you are completely free, and you might also be able to get help with pregnancy related expenses.

Adoption gives your baby adoptive parents who may not otherwise had the chance to become parents. It also allows you to move on from this challenging period in your life. Once you’re ready to learn more about adoption, you can call Lifetime Adoption at 1-800-923-6784.

Written by Heather Featherston

As Vice President of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.

Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.

As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.

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