Why Does Lifetime Focus on Birth Parents?

by | Feb 17, 2021 | Adoptive Families Blog

Happy pregnant woman enjoying a sunny dayBirth mothers and birth fathers are the heart and soul of Lifetime Adoption. These amazing women and men are placing their children for adoption out of great love, despite the pain they are causing to themselves. We hold these parents in the highest regard, and it is our priority to provide them with all of the support and resources they need. Here, I’ll share the reasons behind this Lifetime focus on birth parents, and what it means for you and your adoption!

Birth Mother Counseling and Support

To begin with, we offer professional counseling and peer counseling. We do not want a birth mother ever to feel pressured to place her baby for adoption.

We want birth mothers to have the option of speaking with a professional counselor or a peer who has walked in her shoes. Doing so helps her decide if adoption is the right choice for her and her child. Our dedication to supporting birth mothers in this way leads Lifetime Adoption to have one of the lowest reclaim rates among adoption agencies.

Birth Family Involvement

Sometimes, birth fathers and birth grandparents want to be involved in the adoption process as well. We are happy to work with everyone involved in the adoption. There is never too much love for a child, so an adopted child with access to their birth parents and extended birth family can be a wonderful gift.

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24/7 Availability

Our caring adoption coordinators are available to birth families 24 hours a day, seven days a week by text, email, or phone. We are here to listen, help them with their needs, and connect them with the resources they require.

Whether they have just found out they are pregnant, have just decided to place their baby for adoption, or are thinking about adoption for their child, Lifetime is here. Our caring coordinators never judge or make a birth mother feel anything but brave and strong.

Guidance in Creating an Adoption Plan

Once a birth mother has decided on adoption, we work with her to determine what attributes she is looking for in adoptive parents, what she would like the relationship to look like during her pregnancy, and what type and amount of contact she would like after the adoption is final.

Next, we begin showing her adoptive parent’s profiles that we feel would suit her and her baby and connect her online to the adoptive family search.

Once a birth family chooses adoptive parents, we will help navigate the relationship. We will be there for all parties, from the first phone call or text to an eventual meeting. We have extensive experience in forging these relationships and will guide you all through the process.

Referrals to Resources

We are also dedicated to providing expectant mothers with any resources they need during their pregnancy and after. We provide essential items such as maternity clothes, household and personal care necessities, and hospital kits for labor and delivery through our Birth Mother Blessings program.

If a birth mother would like to further her education through college or vocational school after the birth, we direct them to a birth mother scholarship program.

What Does This Mean for Us?

So, now you might be wondering what all of this means to you as adoptive parents. Any birth mother who chooses you has worked with our adoption coordinators and been provided all the information and support needed to make the adoption decision. As a result, any birth mother you speak with will be more secure in her decision to choose adoption for her baby.

We help match adoptive parents and birth parents who have a similar view of what open adoption will look like in the future. Our adoption coordinators help birth mothers create a hospital plan so that everyone knows what will happen when the big day arrives. If the adoption is of a toddler, older child, or sibling group, we will have a professional counselor assist with the transition plan.

At Lifetime Adoption, we know that a successful, happy adoption only happens when all parties are confident with their decisions and happy with the agreed-upon arrangements. Take a look at some of our recent adoptions and believe that you will meet the right birth mother for you, and your story will appear here too!

Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P.

Written by Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P.

Founder of Lifetime Adoption, adoptive mom, adoption expert, and Certified Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P).

Since 1986, adoption expert Mardie Caldwell has been dedicated to bringing couples and birth parents together in order to fulfill their dreams.

“Many years ago, I was also searching for a child to adopt. We didn’t know where or how to get started. Through research, determination, and a prayer, our dream of a family became reality. I started with a plan, a notebook, assistance from a caring adoption consultant and a lot of hard work; this was my family I was building. We had a few heartaches along the way, but the pain of not having children was worse!

Within weeks we had three different birth mothers choose us. We were overwhelmed and delighted. Many unsettling events would take place before our adoption would be finalized, many months later. Little did I know that God was training and aligning me for the adoption work I now do today. It is my goal to share with our families the methods and plans which succeed and do not succeed. I believe adoption should be affordable and can be a wonderful “pregnancy” for the adoptive couple.

I have also been on both sides of infertility with the loss of seven pregnancies and then conceiving by new technology, giving birth to a healthy daughter. I have experienced first-hand the emotional pain of infertility and believe my experience allows me to serve your needs better.

It is my hope that for you, the prospective parents, your desire for a child will be fulfilled soon.”

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