Life can sometimes seem like nothing more than an endless series of decisions. It can sometimes feel like we’re not living at all but just spending all our time deciding how to live. You may be facing a tough decision right now. And when it comes to deciding between abortion and adoption, there are so many things to think about.
Let’s examine this decision, and try to make sense of it all.
At any point during your research, you can call and learn about modern, open adoption through Lifetime Adoption — without any obligation or pressure.
The Decision: Adoption or Abortion?
If you’ve reached this page, then you’re probably in the beginning stages of making a decision. Maybe you’ve been putting it off for some time, but now you realize it’s no longer possible to wait. You deserve praise for researching all your options.
Perhaps you’re carrying a child and are considering alternatives to abortion. Maybe you’ve even considered placing your child for adoption. Is that the right choice for you as the birth mother? It’s possible that a more important question is: What’s the right thing to do for the baby?
Bringing a child to term and then placing it in the arms of waiting families is a loving decision. There are so many adoptive families waiting to adopt your baby.
As a pregnant woman, have you considered the pros and cons of putting the baby up for adoption? Of putting together an adoption plan, going through the adoption process in the United States, and taking advantage of all the adoption services available to you?
We encourage you to learn about open adoption, which allows birth mothers to choose an adoptive family for their child. You can make other choices too, like how often to keep in touch. You make the decisions.
In addition, as a woman thinking about adoption or abortion, decisions that only you can make, you’ve probably also thought about raising a child and the living expenses that come with that choice. Many women don’t know about modern, open adoptions, and they need to understand them to make an informed decision about their pregnancy
Many pregnant women worry that their baby may end up in foster care.
Basically, a woman who is pregnant has three choices:
- Raise the child
- Get an abortion
- Choose adoption for the baby
We’ve written about this topic before, but it may be helpful to go over some of the key points again.
We highly recommend discussing your options with a trusted person in your life. Then ask yourself these questions:
Am I Ready To Be A Parent?
This is a really important question — probably the most important, especially if the pregnancy was unplanned and/or you are a young teen. Parenting requires time, money, patience — lots and lots of patience.
Will I Have Enough Emotional Support?
Does that support include the baby’s father? It’s hard enough to raise a child with both parents involved. Trying to do it alone may be overwhelming; that’s not good for anybody.
Your child will need constant love and affection. Remember, everything is new to your baby. You are there to make them feel loved, protected, and happy.
Will I Have Enough Money?
You will need to provide for the child. Did you have plans for college or career ambitions that may be delayed or abandoned because you’re a parent? A child needs lots of financial support, too. And if this was an unplanned pregnancy, options may be limited in this regard.
Should I Get An Abortion?
Nobody can make that decision except you, although in some states you may need parental consent if you are underage. Still, even for underage pregnant women, you have the right to make choices regarding your own health and wellbeing.
Some women decide they aren’t ready to be a mother. They may see abortion as a way of ridding themselves of the baby so they don’t have to change their lives. But choosing abortion after learning about the abortion procedure, seeing the baby on an ultrasound, and then living with the decision after an abortion performed at a clinic — these are things that only you know if you can manage.
Other women have similar thoughts, but then choose to place the baby for adoption to give the child a chance for a fulfilling life. We suggest doing some research and reading some stories from women who have had an abortion as well as those who have chosen adoption.
As a domestic adoption agency, Lifetime Adoption can provide you with lots of resources that will help you decide if adoption is the best choice for you.
Did you know that Lifetime is an open adoption agency? That means you choose the family for your child. As opposed to closed adoptions, you can even arrange for visitations and be involved in your child’s life as much as possible.
It doesn’t have to be a goodbye, in other words. You can spend time getting to know the adoptive parents and how their life and yours will be after the adoption.
During your pregnancy, there is a lot of help available for you — things like free counseling, maternity clothes, and help for your living and pregnancy-related expenses. There are even organizations that provide college scholarships for women choosing adoption. You owe it to yourself and your baby to learn about open adoption before you make the decision for abortion.
Thank you again for considering adoption. Know that you are not alone. Lots of women considered adoption before you, and many will choose from all types of adoption after you.
Please get in touch with us and let’s begin a discussion about your option. We will never pressure you. We will treat your case with the strictest confidentiality, and you will not be obligated to choose adoption just because you contacted us.
We look forward to speaking with you.