Question: My wife and I have just started looking into infant adoption. We’re very excited to adopt and are especially hoping to adopt twins.I understand there are lots of factors to consider, but since we’re so new at this, I’m hoping to get your insight on a general time frame of adopting twins. What’s the average wait time with Lifetime to be matched with a birth mother who’s expecting twins?
Answer: Adoptions with twins do happen here at Lifetime. However, waiting specifically for only twins may significantly increase your waiting time, or totally limit your chances for success. In any year, we might have just two to three newborn twin adoptions happen in our more than 100 adoptions, on average, per year.
Yes, there are many factors to keep in mind about the average wait time to be chosen by a birth mother for an adoption match. A good first step to take with Lifetime is to apply. By filling out our online application, you’re helping us learn more about you and your adoption search goals. Our application is free and does not obligate you to anything: LifetimeAdoption.com/apply. Once we know your specific adoption goals more clearly, we’re able to tell you if you’d find success partnering with Lifetime in your adoption, and what to expect as far as average waiting, what to expect, etc.
We totally understand that coming to adoption often means a lot of self-reflection in what matters as you build your family. We encourage families to be open to discussing the hypothetical opportunities that could come up. For instance, imagine if a friend of a niece approached you about adopting her baby. Would you decline the opportunity because she wasn’t expecting twins?
The details of your adoption search will be personal to you, so don’t feel as though you need to defend them, however, do take the time to discuss what really matters, compared to what you feel, at this point, would be ideal or best. Adoption is a unique process, leading two sides together to begin a new story. We never want any adoptive parents to feel as though they were pressured into accepting a particular adoption opportunity, but we also feel strongly that we never want hopeful adoptive parents to miss out on what could be an amazing match for their family! Take time, write your questions, and keep lists of must-haves. Step-by-step, you’ll find the right path, and the right help to get you to your dream!
Founder of Lifetime Adoption, adoptive mom, adoption expert, and Certified Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P).
Since 1986, adoption expert Mardie Caldwell has been dedicated to bringing couples and birth parents together in order to fulfill their dreams.
“Many years ago, I was also searching for a child to adopt. We didn’t know where or how to get started. Through research, determination, and a prayer, our dream of a family became reality. I started with a plan, a notebook, assistance from a caring adoption consultant and a lot of hard work; this was my family I was building. We had a few heartaches along the way, but the pain of not having children was worse!
Within weeks we had three different birth mothers choose us. We were overwhelmed and delighted. Many unsettling events would take place before our adoption would be finalized, many months later. Little did I know that God was training and aligning me for the adoption work I now do today. It is my goal to share with our families the methods and plans which succeed and do not succeed. I believe adoption should be affordable and can be a wonderful “pregnancy” for the adoptive couple.
I have also been on both sides of infertility with the loss of seven pregnancies and then conceiving by new technology, giving birth to a healthy daughter. I have experienced first-hand the emotional pain of infertility and believe my experience allows me to serve your needs better.
It is my hope that for you, the prospective parents, your desire for a child will be fulfilled soon.”