Hannah was 18 when she discovered she was pregnant. And after the death of her boyfriend, she decided to make an adoption plan for their baby boy. Just a few hours before the adoption became official, Hannah recorded a video for her son, letting him know that she will always love him.
In her emotional video, which is featured on People Magazine’s website and The Today Show’s site, she says “I thought I would make this video for you instead of writing a letter because it’s real and it’s in the moment.”
Hannah taped the video so that her son would be able to look back and know that her adoption decision was made out of love for him. “He will never have to think that I ‘gave him up’ or that I did not love him. He will always be able to know that I loved him more than anyone else in this world,” says Hannah.
“I made this video so that you know how much I love you,” she says in the video. “I made this decision completely out of love, and if I didn’t love you I wouldn’t of been in this position at all, and you wouldn’t have this awesome family. I fell in love with them, and they were beyond anything I could have asked for, and I have really really high standards for anyone who is going to raise my child.”
Hannah wrote her adoption hospital plan so that the adoptive couple could be there for some of the labor, and she chose to be alone with her son for a couple of days after delivery. She also requested that the nurses leave her alone with her baby for 45 minutes so she could make the video. “I just allowed myself to break down,” Hannah says. “I was just determined that my son was going to see this someday.”
Today, Hannah has an open adoption relationship her son and with Brad and Emily, the adoptive couple she chose. Hannah’s Instagram profile is filled with photos and videos of her and her little boy. Her son’s adoptive parents, Brad and Emily, said it was very important for all three of their sons to have open adoptions. By having their son’ birth mothers involved in their lives, these boys won’t ever have to wonder if their birth moms loved them.
Many birth parents worry that their child will grow up hating them for choosing adoption. By writing your child a letter or taping a video for them like Hannah did, you’re able to tell them about the true love you have for them. Then, you can request that the adoptive parents give the letter to your child at a specific time, or whenever they feel is best.
It can be hard to write down or say what’s in your heart, but please don’t let your words and feelings go unheard. Your feelings, thoughts, stories, and pictures will be so treasured by your child! For tips on how to write such a letter or tape a video like Hannah’s, check out “The Importance of Writing a Love Letter to Your Child.”
Heidi Keefer is a Content Creator for Lifetime Adoption and has 15 years of experience in the field of adoption. An author of thousands of blog posts over the years, Heidi enjoys finding new ways to educate and captivate Lifetime’s ever-growing list of subscribers.
Heidi has a keen eye for misplaced apostrophes, comma splices, and well-turned sentences, which she has put to good use as a contributor to Lifetime’s award-winning blogs. She has written and published hundreds of adoption articles which explore the various facets of domestic infant adoption today.