Giving birth is an emotionally and physically challenging process. So, getting ready for your baby’s delivery can be a nervous and anxious time. When you add adoption into the mix, things can become even more overwhelming.
That’s why we encourage you to create an adoption hospital plan in advance. Today, we’re giving you info all about how you can make one that works for you!
Part of making an adoption hospital plan includes how you want the delivery to take place and what role you want the adoptive parents to have. To get started, you might ask yourself these three questions:
- Do you want the adoptive couple to be at the hospital with you?
- Do you want them both present in the delivery room, just the adoptive mom, or neither?
- Do you want the adoptive family to take part in the birth process, and if so, how?
Some birth mothers want the adoptive parents to experience the birth themselves, as much as they can, by bringing them into the process. For example, they invited the adoptive couple to cut the umbilical cord, be the first to hold the baby, and start the bonding process right after their baby is born.
Other birth mothers decide they’d like to spend as much time as possible with their baby so that they can say goodbye. This can help with your healing process because it’s hard to say goodbye to someone if you haven’t first said hello. Spending time with your baby, holding her, and talking to her can help with the healing process.
At the end of the day, the choice is up to you. We encourage you to talk with your Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime to create an adoption hospital plan that works for you and that you’re truly comfortable with. She will help you work out the details beforehand so that the process goes as smoothly as possible.
Here’s a quick video about the choices you have with your adoption experience in the hospital:
As the Chief Operating Officer (COO) of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.
Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.
As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.