Unexpected pregnancies can be overwhelming. But discovering that you will deliver twins can add to the surprise. This is especially the case if you think you may have difficulty caring for a child — let alone two of them. You may be wondering, “what is the process for giving up twins for adoption?”
If you are an expectant mother that is considering placing twins for adoption, you may have questions. There are stories in books and the media about twins being separated at birth and then being dramatically reunited years after the fact. This may be concerning to you and may even deter you from pursuing adoption for your babies.
However, it is important to understand that these kinds of stories are very rare in modern adoptions, especially those that take place in the United States. In fact, adoption agencies will not split up twins. Keeping the siblings together is especially important, and it is widely seen as in their best interest.
Children are at the very heart of what we do at Lifetime Adoption. That means we understand the special bond that twins have and the vital need for them to stay together.
We won’t separate your twins. We will work closely with you to find the right family for you to place your children with. We will make sure they are financially stable and emotionally ready to welcome two babies into their home with loving arms.
What role do I play in the adoption process?
As you move through pregnancy and process the many changes and challenges that come with that, our caring adoption coordinators will work closely with you to figure out what type of family you want your babies to be raised in.
In an open adoption, you as the birth parent will be choosing from families who are excited about adopting children. You will learn about their hobbies, lifestyle, and more, so you can find the perfect fit. You can speak to them and get to know them before deciding on just the right one.
Having this kind of involvement helps you feel confident that you have found the right family that can provide the type of life you want for your twins.
Our team will help ensure that the adoptive parents you choose know and understand the responsibility that comes with adopting twins, so you will be assured that they can provide the same level of care for two children as they would for just one.
How do I start the adoption process for my twins?
You can easily start the adoption process by completing our online adoption questionnaire. Everything you share is confidential, and we will help you with an adoption plan that meets your specific needs. If you prefer to call or text first, someone is available to speak with you 24 hours a day at 1-800-923-6784.
We understand that you will have many questions about the adoption process. Our team will help answer questions so you know what is involved every step of the way. Once we know a little more about you, we can get you information on families open to adopting your babies. Or, if you prefer, you can view waiting families right now!
You can receive pregnancy counseling or peer support, which is speaking to other women who have been where you are. Additionally, if you choose an open adoption, you will have the ability to stay in contact with the adoptive family that you picked.
You can decide what your delivery plan will look like and any other details surrounding your hospital stay. Our adoption coordinators will be there for you every step of the way to help you through this emotional time.
It’s important to know that we have helped many other birth mothers place twins for adoption, and we can help you too. We understand that making that first call can be difficult, but there is no judgment here — just care for you and a deep desire to help you decide if adoption is the best choice for you and your babies.
Contact our caring coordinators at Lifetime Adoption today to learn more about starting the adoption process.
Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P., is nationally recognized as an expert on open adoption. A Certiﬁed Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P.), Caldwell is the founder of Lifetime Adoption Center, established in 1986. She has assisted in over 2,000 successful adoptions and was one of the ﬁrst adoption professionals on the Internet.
Caldwell’s life work is dedicated to educating and helping birth parents find the right adoptive parents for their child. She spreads the word about modern adoption through speaking appearances, webinars, online resources, and as a podcast show host.
She has written several award-winning books, including So I Was Thinking About Adoption, the first book of its kind. There are many reasons women choose adoption, and this short book is a comprehensive resource to make the best plan for you and your baby. Caldwell wrote So I Was Thinking About Adoption as a handy guide to the details of the adoption process.
Caldwell has made over 150 media appearances, including ABC News, CBS News, Larry King Live, CNN Headline News, NBC’s The Today Show, CNN’s The Campbell Brown Show, NBC News, KGO Newstalk Radio, CNN’s Black in America II, MSNBC, Fox, PBS, BBC, and Dr. Laura.