Many pregnant women begin looking into adoption because they want to offer their baby the best life possible. That life starts with the perfect adoptive family. While no family is perfect, there is a hopeful adoptive family out there who is perfect for you. But how do you find them? With so many families to choose from, this decision can feel overwhelming.
You are not alone in this process. The adoption professionals at Lifetime Adoption can help take the guesswork out of making that perfect match. All of our families have already passed a background check and a home study. Our qualified families are just waiting for a birth mother to make that special connection. You can use this guide to find the perfect adoptive family, who will fulfill your vision for your child’s future.
Make a List of What You Want for Your Child
Your first step is to search your heart for the future you wish for you and your baby. Be honest about your desires and what you will be comfortable with. Make a list of your preferences, so you can compare your needs to what potential adoptive families have to offer. Many prospective birth mothers consider the following:
Do you picture your child growing up in the slower pace of a small town or in the midst of a busy city? Is it important that your child lives in a culturally diverse community? If you choose an open adoption plan, it might also be important for you to live within a reasonable distance from the adoptive family.
Some prospective birth mothers want their child raised by parents of the same ethnicity. Others are willing to open their adoption preferences to all races.
A home with two parents may offer more financial stability and emotional support for raising a child. For prospective birth mothers who choose adoption because their baby’s father is not involved, a two-parent home may be exactly what they wish for their child.
Different religions come with values and traditions that you may feel are important for your child’s upbringing. Some prospective birth mothers want their child raised in the same religion that they were brought up with.
Many hopeful adoptive couples choose adoption after a painful journey with infertility. Your choice will make their dream to become parents come true.
Other couples choose adoption because they are not yet done raising children. They will bring experience to the table and provide your child with the opportunity to have siblings. Each type of family has its benefits, but it’s up to you to decide the best match for your child.
Decide Which Type of Adoption Plan Works Best for You
Prospective birth mothers can choose to have a closed, semi-open, or open adoption plan. With an open adoption plan, you share identifiable information with the adoptive family and leave the door open for future updates and contact with your child. You work with the adoptive parents to decide what type and how much contact you wish to maintain. It’s important to be honest about your wishes while researching potential adoptive families.
Research Adoptive Family Profiles
Once you have determined what you are looking for, it’s time to conduct some research. Lifetime Adoption provides online profiles of hopeful adoptive families. As you browse through the profiles, learn as much as possible by looking through their pictures, watching their videos, and reading their stories. Use your list of preferences to determine which families might be a potential match. Ask questions to learn more. After you find the perfect adoptive family for you, you can email them or reach out to Lifetime Adoption for more information on them.
Get to Know Potential Adoptive Families
Once you have narrowed down your list, your Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime will help you get in contact with potential adoptive families. These conversations and in-person visits will give you a better understanding of the adoptive families’ values, lifestyle, and the future they have in store for your baby. This is the time to ask questions, so don’t hold back! Here are some common topics of conversation:
- Why did you choose to adopt?
- How will you talk to my child about his/her adoption?
- Tell me about your professions.
- Tell me about your faith.
- What are your other interests or hobbies?
- Are you close to your extended family?
- Do you travel?
- What kind of contact are you comfortable within our open adoption plan?
Remember, nothing is final until you decide. Just because you meet with a family doesn’t mean you have to choose them.
Take your time with this big decision, but let the families know when you do – they have their hearts on the line too. The day your adoptive family hears that you have chosen them will be a day they never forget. Their joy may help you feel more confident in your choice to place your child for adoption.
Trust Your Instincts
As you get to know hopeful adoptive families, trust your gut. If something doesn’t feel authentic, or if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. Be wary of anyone who promises too much. Promises mean nothing if there is no follow-through. It’s much more important for everyone to be honest about what they can commit to.
Your search to find the perfect adoptive family may be challenging. It will take some work to secure this essential piece of your child’s life plan. However, the time and energy you put into finding that perfect match will be worth it when you finally make that bond with the family who was meant for you.
Begin your search for the perfect adoptive family today by viewing
Lifetime’s adoptive family profiles online.
As the Chief Operating Officer (COO) of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.
Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.
As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.